So far, most of my experience of S&M has been with fiction, porn (woo go tautologies) and a godawful Rihanna song. I like reading and writing about things, and I've actually considered trying a few of them... But now I'm realising I don't want to.

Specifically, I've always quite enjoyed the idea of nipple clamps. They're so fun in stories, but... well, my boobs disagree about how much fun they are.

Is it normal to really, really like the idea of something and then find it hard to actually do, or is it just the case that it feels nicer when you're more turned on or with someone you love?