What is so appealing about 'bratty subs'? Is it so bad not to be one?

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So I had been told by a dom who I was somewhat serious with (and am no longer talking to) that the reason he liked this other girl better is because she so bratty and its just so much fun to play with her. I don't get any kind of thrill from trying to 'run away' during a scene or back talking, I am pretty much the opposite of bratty (whatever the word for that is). While I am still a bit upset to see the two of them together I have come to terms that if thats what he was looking for we had no business being together because I will never be that girl he wants.

This is only an opinion and observation. (a) Be yourself and don't feel upset because you didn't "measure up" to another's view of what BDSM means. You have different qualities that a good and wise Dominant would admire. (b) There is a word that fits who you are, it's called submissive. (c) If a "brat" needs to mouth off for attention, either the Dominant has no clue what to do or the brat should get some serious attention. (Knock yourself out if that's your kink) I call it an "attitude adjustment".

However today I was playing with someone new and they mentioned how they are used to playing with girls that are a lot more mouthy than me. In fact usually most the scene is based around getting the girl to shut up, because of that he was having a lot of trouble telling when to end things. We had fun and all, plan to play again, but I have a feeling he was disappointed I didn't really 'put up a fight'.

Again, you may not be melting or intertwined with the right type of Dominant that fits your needs. Still, to each his or her own. You have a quiet and expressive submission. You may never be that type of person described and still My opinion.

I don't understand the appeal, and it seems like a majority of the people I know (doms and subs) play that way. I personally don't think you can do BDSM 'wrong', aside from people just being stupidly dangerous. It seems lately like I am doing it wrong though. Kind of like I am failing at doing what the person topping me wants; by doing what they ask me to do. It is getting really frustrating. Can someone please explain this to me? It does not feel good to be told that your just not that much fun to play.

The appeal is a learned behavior of a spoiled person that requires the need to be the centre of attention. I also believe you're incorrect on the seemingly majority. You may regard it as that because of the age group and the immature level of play. A mature male or female doesn't need to behave in that manner to get attention. I will agree that it can be dangerous if the limits are NOT known or discussed. Again reading your description, you're not doing nothing wrong, just with the wrong person. I don't find a mouth piece fun to play with, more of a baby sitting scene. You should find a mature person that understands real play, real torment, the reality of what a true submissive is. A good and wise Master, knows His submissive, understands the limits, works to push the limits of play, encompasses everything that has meaning, plays that lasts into the wee hours of the morning and most importantly, expresses the best of qualities, builds on qualities, praises the submissive. A true Dominant, a wise Master does NOT damage the Masterpiece.