Hi Velocity,
As i was reading this, the feeling that i got was instead of looking at it as the end of your D/s relationship and into Vanilla. To look at it as your Master was giving you another opportunity to submit to his will completely and fully. To show your willingness to submit to him, being willing to experience things that you may not personally enjoy, but do them out of service and devotion. Disobeying a direct and detailed order and not accepting punishment is similar to saying you doubt his abilities and question his ownership of you. I think that going back to basics and working on the foundation of your relationship, is most likely one of the few ways to save your relationship. i do not know you or your Master, but maybe that is what he is thinking as well?