makes good sense what youve said. I have been unfair..he wants to know ,,,so he can help me...Im just mind blocked for fear of him not understanding. Also too, no one has really wanted to know.....and when kept quiet for so long it becomes hard to bear my soul. I know that exasperation in this consumes him......and due to circumstance discussions are rushed,,,,,Time to bite the bullet and believe....god knows I dont want to stuff this up. Thankyou for your time in replying....