Quote Originally Posted by brwneydgirl View Post
What is the feeling the submissive receives? Physical pleasure? Is it a feeling of "see how tough I am?" ?
I was a kid about 6 years when i was already excited about torture scenes. As an adolescent i fantasized about being whipped topless in the school yard or rolled in thorny shrubs by my schoolmates naked. My arousal didn't come from love to my torturers, as it doesn't come from love to the security guards in my above mentioned fantasies. Nor comes the sexual arousal simply from the pain, the dentist's treatment or a headache. It comes, as i see it, from the feeling of being submitted to torture, having the pain inflicted on me intentionally. In the case of my love relationship with my sweet Mistress, love increases the pleasure of painful submission. But humiliation is necessary. It is the way at least in my case.