My husband and i have dabbled in bondage and some other things. I have two problems I'm not sure how to handle.

First, i want to experience the submissive side. I have the alpha personality my marriage and i'm not sure if i can relinquish complete control. I love being tied up but it frustrates when i can't have control. i really want to try but not sure what else will help me let go.

Second, i know my husband wants to be more dominate but he pulls back too easily. If he spanks me and i make the tiniest noise of pain he stops. Even when i ask him to continue, it's not full on. How can i help him overcome his issues.

I know it sounds like we should just reverse rolls, but i don't want to be the one in control all the time. I want him to push me and i'm not sure how.