I have since these posts were written met people from OL in RL. I followed most of these guidelines...

I am not very experienced, I guess... But I didnt feel the need to involve the police. But then again, these people were so well-known in both the local vanilla and local kinky commnities, that i never really doubted i was safe.
Despite knowing it I had safe calls...got references and all of it.
I didnt get anything from the police...personally I didnt feel the need to.

My safecall knew everything I knew about the peole I was meeting.

If I was meeting someone *not* well-known in the community, perhaps I would have done that then.


Regarding confidentiality, remember the significance of meeting someone to set up a meeting in which you will be tied down, gagged, spanked, flogged and generally hurt... I would be concerned if the person I am discussing doing this to me with had confidentiality concerns...