I'm testing the waters with bdsm and I'd like to talk to an experienced dominant about it through pm. I'm unsure where I even land with being a dominant or a submissive. I don't have a take charge attitude, but I'm stubborn at times. I'm very frustrated and confused, so I was hoping that a talk might possibly clarify things for me. I'm in a very serious relationship and we're pretty open with our sex life but he doesn't seem to get it when I bring this up, so he's not much help in working this out with me. Any help would be greatly appreciated.