Well not everyone is as open-minded as we would like them to be. Even friends we've known for almost all our lives may react in a negative light once presented with the fact that we are taking up something new and/or abnormal. You can always keep in the fact that you are submissive with your vanilla friends because most might have strong feelings against it and find some friends who are into the lifestyle or at least open-minded and will allow you to be who/what you want. I know it maybe hard because I know for me I do love talking with my best friends about all of the activities I've been apart of, so that might be hard, realizing that you wont be allowed to just be as open as you would like. But there are somethings that are best left secret!