Quote Originally Posted by The Jaded Dominant { koral } View Post
My My My gracie.. Excellent Points on all..
you little one have Grown just a tich huh....

for all of Y/you who have not heard any of My Rants on this subject..
1st and foremost This is a RELATIONSHIP. The most intimate and difficult any person will have..
it requires some things many many many are unfamiliar with..
H O N E S T Y.... O P E N .... C O M M U N I C A T I O N AND MUTUAL R E S P E C T by all parties concerned...
one is not supposed to feel less than.. or worse than others....
it sounds simple enough..
A Dominants Job/Duty is to provide:
Protection
Affection and
Correction
A submissive is to serve/please her Dominant
again sounds simple...
Sacrifices are needed and expected by both sides.....
Compromises ARE made
extremely Hard to do
in practice....
but....
If Y/you stay true to W/who and What Y/you are...
If Y/you do NOT compromise your basic values..
if Y/you refuse to settle and REMEMBER your inherent worth..Both Dominants and Subs here...
Things will work out...
The Rant is much much better but now as I am Retired....Yelling does NOT enhance My Calm Dude/ette....
Blame rani on settling Me down..winks
From the Wilds of Oregon....
J.D.
If only far more people understood and this and acted on it then things would be so much better. It's about give and take, compromises all along the way. As jinxs mentioned online relationships can have a closeness that is very tangible, but they have to be even more aware of what it takes for a D/s relationship to work. That means more communication, while daily stuff is good, you really need to be discussing with the other person how you are thinking or it is never going to work out.