If only far more people understood and this and acted on it then things would be so much better. It's about give and take, compromises all along the way. As jinxs mentioned online relationships can have a closeness that is very tangible, but they have to be even more aware of what it takes for a D/s relationship to work. That means more communication, while daily stuff is good, you really need to be discussing with the other person how you are thinking or it is never going to work out.