I hear this phrase all over the net. In chat, in forum posts, in articles and blogs. I fail to fully understand this concept. How is someone being who they are a gift to me, who is being who I am? Does that mean my dominance is also a gift? Yes a submissive offers her submission, surrender, obedience, etc, to the one she chooses to serve, but without his dominance, her submission means very little. The converse of this is true also, that without her submission, his dominance means little also.

What this leads me to conclude is that this dance we call bdsm, M/s, D/s, et al, is a symbiotic relationship in which both offer something vital to the other, meeting a need that is crucial to who each individual is, and that the real gift is in sharing yourselves honestly, openly and completely without regard to which side of the dominance/submissive coin you happen to be on.

What do you think?


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