Trusting another enough to open the box of hidden desires is no small act. The sub who finally tells a partner of their desire / need to be submissive has a risk of ruining an established relationship. Others may see them as weird or too kinky to accept. Once the cat is out of the bag, the lines of communication and acceptance of responsibility increase ten fold. An accepting Dom takes on the obligation to provide a haven for the newly discovered sub. Extensive reading and understanding is required of the Dom. There is a great deal more to the D/s relationship than the servitude of the sub to the Dom. The Dom accepts the responsibility to ensure the subs mental and psychological / emotional needs are met and desires are unhidden. To find and meet the individual needs of the sub will enrich the relationship beyond sex. The commitment of one to the other becomes stronger and the 2 can grow to enjoy a rewarding relationship. In short; Submission is not a gift but, is a challenge to the mind and body of anyone calling themselves Dom.