Just_ine took my top one... take your time and learn. Do not jump into anything with the first seemingly "nice" person you meet. Talk, ask questions, read (not porn stories) and most important LISTEN.

One of the best things i was told when i first started learning and it is something i have always tried to live by -
There is no ONE way, no ONE answer, no ONE opinion. Listen to as many as you can and see what works for you, and eventually you and your partner. Be open and non judgemental. You will learn the most that way.