Hi,

I'm new to this and all of this. My latest girlfriend had experience in BDSM and being a slave/sub, and I wanted to do certain things with her and explore. Yet it never happened because at some point she said to me that she thought she didn't 'need' that when 'properly loved'. I took that as not wanting it anymore, so it never happened.

What I do know about myself is that I am dominant by nature. And I like and am curious about BDSM, but without inflicting certain 'real' pain (so for example no whipping, but yes to nippleclamps or twisting them). I am also interested in the bondage/restraining part of it. The 'rough' part of it. And the 'being in control', being able to do what I want with a partner.

This doesn't have to be all the time or everytime. But I think I need to incorporate it into my life, to have the most fullfilling life.

Am I in the right place here, and where do I go from here?