you're in the right place if you take the time to look around. there are a ton of great threads - some are a little older since this forum hasn't been super active for a while.

you can decide whether or not you want to simply be kinky in the bedroom and have some rough, bdsm-oriented sex or if you want to incorporate bdsm in to your day to day relationship.

what's the difference??

one is about how you have sex and then going about the rest of your relationship as you do now. you can learn a ton of stuff -- i googled "how do i tie someone up" and some good resources popped right up! Here are a couple links i found here in the library:

http://www.bdsmlibrary.com/forums/sh...is-for-Bondage

http://www.bdsmlibrary.com/forums/sh...lves-kinkiness

http://www.bdsmlibrary.com/forums/sh...l=1#post906571

i even found info on you tube: http://www.youtube.com/results?searc...be.8G_hqUW_aaU

the other is about establishing your Dominance and her submission to you through every day stuff. for example, maybe you tell her what panties to wear to work (or no panties), maybe you tell her to text you 3 times a day at specific times.... little things that establish your control over her and keep her thinking of you.

if you have questions, keep asking!

hope you have fun.

cookie