Thank you very much. Apologies for the lateness of my reply but trying to figure out a descriptive has been playing on my mind...
It has really helped to get another view *hugs*

also out of interest, on the subject of words meaning so many things to different people (though not, of course, exclusive to BDSM) ...here is an interesting Blog on some BDSM Definitions... http://belasarius.com/definitions-of-bdsm-terms/