I obviously am not a dominant...*grin*, but I have been taught well and have had a sounding board of people who have been in the lifestyle a long time. I am not sure that the amount of time someone has met you is relevant, sometimes people just click. It was 2 mos of interaction for me before I met who I was conversing with, this includes phone calls and keeping communication on a daily basis. I do AGREE THAT SAFETY IS PARAMOUNT!! That you asked for references show's your not just willing to be "sweet talked" into anything. I to had a safe call and other means of making sure he was who he said he was...exchanging names and then I.D.'s when you meet is a good idea. If he is reluctant or pushes without any of these things, then I totally agree....bye bye baby. Just enjoy the site,ask questions, have fun and above all be safe. Good luck..
la