I do not know where else to post this. I am trying to figure out how to fix myself, since this problem was one of the reasons my husband cheated on me...

I have a very hard time orgasming, and can only do so with the help of a vibrator. I have an aversion to touching myself, it makes me feel guilty. Around the time my husband had an affair, I had lost interest in sex. Now, almost a year later, with a divorce lingering in my future, I want to figure out how to get my sex drive back, and learn how to get over the aversion to touching myself, and learn how to orgasm without the use of a vibrator. I am wondering if anyone has been through something similar, and if anyone has any advice that might help me with my issues/problems. Thank you in advance...