Lass- D/s is always a 2-way street. anything one-way-only is abuse. But if you feel your needs are being ignored or overlooked- TALK to him. Honesty and Communication are the only things that can make D/s work, in my opinion. you subs may Suspect we read minds at times, but honestly- We don't. So when you have a problem or a fret- say so. Don't make us surmise and guess- Tell us. Things work Much smoother that way. Feel free to contact me if you wish me to expand and expound on this; otherwise, I wish you well. Just remember Honesty (even if it has to be Brutal to be clear). Communication (Talk To- not At. And the louder the volume, the lest the listening, usually. If you can manage those 2 things, most other things can be worked out. Best of luck.