Never apologise for asking questions!

A good place to start is exploring the forum, looking for stories, poems or topics that interest you and reading and learning. Introduce yourself, make freinds. Although I rearely use it I understand that Chat can be a good way to meet like minded people, and I certainly have taken part in some of the discussion groups run by velvetpaws, and they are excellent.

As with anything in life letting yourself be vulnerable comes with trust in those you are vulnerable around and time, it's not something that is an instant 'fix' you can get the illusion of 'vulnerability' and 'submission' without these things but that is it.

Good luck! there are plenty of friendly folk about!