Looking for advice

[Misschief]

... throw her on the bed, sofa or even back against the wall and give her a hard rough fuck with lots of verbal eg "that's it take it my sweet whore".

... Use some excuse to treat her rough, then just push her around and soften her up. I like the pretext of "this is whats going to happen if you dont do as told". ... give her the opportunity to end the beating by simply offering me something better to do eg sexual favors eg a blow job. And since I like body writing I would write suitable dgrading remarks all over her body.
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nice.. so so nice.. i like the degrading remarks, but do not just write them, verbalize them lots and lots while Youre fucking me.. make me feel ashamed for how wet i am because You are treating me like the cum slut You know i am.. oh wow.. You truly fucking get it!

my suggestion for the original poster having issues with switching with their partner is to have a journal.. i know that i always recommend this, but it is an invaluable resource especially in couples new to the the bdsm realm.. it is much easier to write things down either on paper on on a computer and share them with one another.. that way, each can get out their true feeling without the clumsiness of being shy getting in the way..

if you truly feel bdsm is not for you guys, dont force it.. but there are SO many aspects of the lifestyle oute there to explore.. what is it about bdsm that truly turns you on? i have had power exchange fantasies since the first time i made myself cum.. i had no idea what the fuck i was thinking about.. i was too shy to even picture myself in these fantasies, but i know for a fact, through and through, what i need to get enjoyment out of my sex life.. if i don't have this aspect of my life expressed with another, if i do not get to feel like what i know i am inside, even if i just think about it while sucking His beautiful cock, i think i would be utterly miserable.. it is not 'take it or leave it' for me..