My wife and I started into BDSM about a month ago and have had a few scenes since. We are both switches and it will be my turn next to be dominant. I know my wife would like some kind of take down play or coercion but I am very unsure of how to proceed? The last time I tried she ended up just submitting and though it was fun I don't think it was exactly what she wanted. Any advice on how to let her know i'm okay with her struggling and how to start the scene? I should note I have a few lengths of rope and leather cuffs, i'm a novice at rope tying.