Found this Questionaire on an old thread, thought it would be fun to start new thread to keep it going! There are two Questionaires one for Doms and one for subs.

The one for sub/slaves

Submissive BDSM Play Partner Check List

This questionnaire should be filled out by a sub and provided to their Dom/Top before playing with them. This will provide a quick "head-start" to identifying limits, negotiating and finding common ground for play.

For each item, you need to provide two answers:
First write YES or NO next to each item to indicate if you have ever DONE that activity.
Mark N/A if it does not apply to your gender.
Next, indicate for each item how you FEEL about that activity by rating it on a scale of NO or 0 to 5.

NO means you will NOT do that item under any circumstances (a hard limit).

0 (zero) indicates you have utterly no desire to do that activity and don't like doing it (in fact, may loath it) and would ordinarily object to doing it, but you would be willing to do it to please the Dominant if it they really wanted it. (sometimes called a "soft limit").

1 means you don't want to do or like to do this activity, but wouldn't object if it were asked of you by your Dominant.

2 means you are willing to do this activity, but it has no special appeal for you.

3 means you usually like doing this activity, at least on an irregular/ occasional basis.

4 means you like doing this activity, and would like to experience it on a regular basis.

5 means the activity is a wild turn-on for you, and you would like it as often as possible.

Mark with an asterisk (*) those items which you are willing to do only with you current sex partner(s), but not with casual play-partners.

Note any additional information, which might be important for your Dom to know.

There is intentionally some overlap between categories. Unless otherwise stated, the Sub is the recipient of the activity.

Experience, Willingness Question or Comments
yes/no NO or 0-5 written in by sub


Abrasion: NO
Age play: 4
Anal sex: NO
Anal plugs (small): 0
Anal plugs (large): NO
Anal plug (public, under clothes): 0
Animal roles: 1
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): 1
Asphyxiation: NO
Auctioned for charity: 4
Bathroom use control: NO
Bestiality: NO
Beating (soft): 2
Beating (hard): NO
Blindfolds: 4
Being serviced (sexual): 5
Being bitten: 3
Breast/chest bondage: 2
Breath control: NO
Branding: NO
Boot worship: 0
Bondage (light): 5
Bondage (heavy): 2
Bondage (multi-day): NO
Bondage (public, under clothing): 0
Bondage and Sex: 5
Breast whipping: 2
Brown showers (scat): NO
Cages (locked inside of): Depends on duration
Caning: 2
Catheterization: NO
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): Depends on duration
Chastity belts: 3
Chauffeuring: 0
Choking: NO
Clothespins breast/nipples: 1
Clothespins labia lips/clit: 1
Clothespins body: NO
Cock worship: 5
Collars (worn in private): 3
Collars (worn in public): 3
Competitions (with other Subs): 5
Corsets (wearing): 5
Cuffs: 3
Cuffs (metal): 3
Cutting: NO
Dilation: NO
Double penetration: NO
Electricity: 1
Enemas: NO
Enforced chastity: 3
Examinations (physical): 4
Exercise (forced/required): 0
Exhibitionism (friends): 5
Exhibitionism (strangers): 4
Eye contact restrictions: 3
Face slapping: 0
Fantasy abandonment: 2
Fantasy rape: 3
Fantasy forced deep throat: 3
Fantasy forced cunt licking: 5
Fantasy forced rape anal: NO
Fantasy gang-rape: 3
Fisting (anal): NO
Fisting (vaginal): 0
Flogging: 2
Following hand signals: 3
Following orders: 5
Foot worship: 1
Forced dressing: 5
Forced homosexuality: 5
Forced masturbation: 5
Forced nudity (private):5
Forced nudity (around others): 3
Forced servitude: 5
Full head hoods: NO
Gags (cloth): 3
Gags (penis shaped):3
Gags (rubber): 3
Gags (tape): 3
Gates of Hell:
Genital sex: 5
Given away to another Dom (temp): 4
Given away to another Domme (temp): 5
Given away to another Dom (perm): NO
Given away to another Domme (perm): NO
Golden showers: NO
Greetings rituals: 4
Hairbrush spankings: 3
Hair pulling: 5
Hand jobs (giving): 5
Hand jobs (receiving): 5
Harems (serving w/other subs): 5
Harnessing (leather): 2
Harnessing (rope): 2
Having food chosen for you: NO
Having clothing chosen for you: 5
Head (giving cunnilingus): 5
Head (giving fellatio): 5
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): 5
Head (receiving fellatio male only):
High heel worship: 2
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): 4
Hot oils (on genitals): 2
Hot waxing: 3
Housework (doing): 3
Human puppy dog: 1
Humiliation (private): 4
Humiliation (public): 0
Hypnotism: NO
Ice cubes: 3
Infantilism: 3
Initiation rites: 3
Injections: NO
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: 0
Interrogations: 4
Kidnapping: 4
Kneeling: 5
Leather clothing: 2
restraints chains: 2
restraints leather: 2
restraints rope: 2
Lectures for misbehavior: 4
Licking (non-sexual): 4
Manacles & Irons: 3
Manicures (giving): 0
Massage (giving): 5
Massage (receiving): 5
Medical scenes: NO
Modeling for erotic photos: 3
Modeling for erotic videos: 3
Mouth bits: 3
Mummification: NO
Nipple clamps: 3
Nipple cloths pins: 3
Nipple weights: NO
Oral/anal play (rimming): 1
Over-the-knee spanking: 5
Orgasm denial: 5
Orgasm control: 5
Outdoor scenes: 3
Outdoor sex: 4
Phone sex (serving Dom): 3
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): 3
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): NO
Piercing (permanent): NO
Prison scenes: 4
Pony slave: 1
Public exposure:3
Public tasks: 3
Pussy/cock whipping: 1
Pussy worship: 5
Riding crops: 2
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): NO
Rituals: 2
Religious scenes: 0
Restrictive rules on behavior: 3
Rubber/latex clothing: 2
Rope body harness: 1
Saran wrapping:NO
Scratching – getting: 1
Scratching – giving: 1
Sensory deprivation: 1
Serving: 5
Serving as art: 3
Serving as ashtray: NO
Serving as furniture: 3
Serving as a maid: 5
Serving as toilet: NO
Serving as waitress/waiter: 5
Serving orally (sexual): 5
Serving other Doms (supervised): 5
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): NO
Sexual deprivation (short term): 5
Sexual deprivation (long term): NO
Shaving (body hair): 2
Shaving (head hair): NO
Shaving (pubic hair): 2
Sleep deprivation: NO
Sleep-sacks: NO
Slutty clothing (private): 5
Slutty clothing (public): 2
Spanking in private: 5
Spanking in public: no
Spanking in bdsm parties: 5
Spanking pleasure: 5
Spandex clothing: 1
Speech restrictions (when, what): 5
Speculums (Anal): NO
Speculums (vaginal): NO
Spreader bars: 4
Standing in corner: 3
Stocks (adjustable): 1
Stocks (fixed): 1
Straight jackets: 0
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): 5
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by):5
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): 5
Strapping (full body beating): 2
Suspension (upright); NO
Suspension (inverted): NO
Suspension (horizontal): NO
Supplying new partners for Dom: 3
Swallowing semen: -only with a serious partner
Swallowing urine: NO
Swapping (with one other couple): 5
Swinging (multiple couples): 5
Tattooing: NO
Teasing: 5
Tickling: 0
Triple penetration: NO
Triple penetration by 3 males: NO
Uniforms: 5
Including others: 5
Vaginal dildo: 5
Verbal humiliation: 3
Vibrator on genitals:5
Voyeurism (watching others): 5
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): 5
Video (watching others): 5
Video (recordings of you): 3
Water torture: NO
Wearing symbolic jewelry: 2
Whipping: 2
Wooden paddles: 4
Wrestling: 4