Questionnaire

[ashamed_of_myself]

Found this Questionaire on an old thread, thought it would be fun to start new thread to keep it going! There are two Questionaires one for Doms and one for subs.

The one for sub/slaves

Submissive BDSM Play Partner Check List. This questionnaire should be filled out by a sub and provided to their Dom/Top before playing with them. This will provide a quick "head-start" to identifying limits, negotiating and finding common ground for play. For each item, you need to provide two answers:

First write YES or NO next to each item to indicate if you have ever DONE that activity.

Mark N/A if it does not apply to your gender.

Next, indicate for each item how you FEEL about that activity by rating it on a scale of NO, 0 to 5 or * (an asterisk).

NO indicates that you will NOT do that item under any circumstances (a hard limit).
0 indicates that you have utterly no desire to do that activity and don't like doing it (in fact, may loath it) and would ordinarily object to doing it, but you would be willing to do it to please the Dominant if it they really wanted it. (sometimes called a "soft limit").
1 indicates that you don't want to do or don't like to do this activity, but wouldn't object if it were asked of you by your Dominant.
2 indicates that you are willing to do this activity, but it has no special appeal for you.
3 indicates that you usually like doing this activity, at least on an irregular/ occasional basis.
4 indicates that you like doing this activity, and would like to experience it on a regular basis.
5 indicates that the activity is a wild turn-on for you, and you would like it as often as possible.
* indicates those items which you are willing to do only with you current sex partner(s), but not with casual play-partners.

Note any additional information, which might be important for your Dom to know. There is intentionally some overlap between categories. Unless otherwise stated, the Sub is the recipient of the activity. Experience, Willingness, Question or Comments Yes/No, NO, 0 to 5 or * written in by sub

SPECIAL NOTE: FIRST AND FOREMOST, ABSOLUTELY NONE OF MY FANTASY (RACE PLAY) BDSM SESSIONS INVOLVE ANY ACTUAL (OR IMAGINARY) STRANGULATION(S), ANY ACTUAL (OR IMAGINARY) INCINERATION(S), ANY ACTUAL (OR IMAGINARY) MURDER/HOMICIDE(S), ANY ACTUAL (OR IMAGINARY) DROWNING(S), ANY ACTUAL (OR IMAGINARY) BODILY DISMEMBERMENT, ANY ACTUAL (OR IMAGINARY) BODILY MUTILATION, ANY ACTUAL (OR IMAGINARY) PUNCTURE WOUND(S), ANY ACTUAL (OR IMAGINARY) POISONING(S), ANY ACTUAL (OR IMAGINARY) BODILY INJECTION(S), ANY ACTUAL (OR IMAGINARY) BODILY INFECTION(S), ANY ACTUAL (OR IMAGINARY) INCISION(S), ANY ACTUAL (OR IMAGINARY) "FORCED/FORCIBLE ENTRIES" AND/OR ANY REAL PERSON(S) UNDER THE AGE OF TWENTY-FIVE EITHER. FURTHERMORE, I DO NOT WANT THE GENERAL PUBLIC TO WITNESS ANY OF MY SESSIONS EITHER, WHETHER BY PERSONAL 'FLESH-AND-BLOOD' CONTACT OR VIA THE MEDIA FOR MASS VIEWERSHIP. (I DON'T MIND MAKING VIDEOS; I JUST DON'T WANT TO BE IN ANY PHOTOGRAPHS/IMAGES/VIDEOS/VISUALS THAT WILL EVENTUALLY GO VIRAL AND/OR WILL BE SEEN BY THE GENERAL PUBLIC.) IT'S ALSO VERY IMPORTANT THAT MY SESSION PARTNER(S) ARE NOT PEOPLE WHOM I OTHERWISE REGULARLY INTERACT WITH AT MY REGULAR JOBSITE (MANAGERS/SUPERVISORS/EMPLOYEES/GUESTS/CUSTOMERS/PATRONS) OR WHATEVER SCHOOL (FACULTY/STAFF/PROFESSORS/STUDENTS/VISITORS) I ATTEND. (GUESTS, CUSTOMERS, PATRONS AND VISITORS ARE NEGOTIABLE OR ON A CASE-BY-CASE BASIS.) PRIVATE SESSIONS/PARTIES CONSISTING OF ONLY A FEW INDIVIDUALS ARE NEGOTIABLE OR ON A CASE-BY-CASE BASIS. ALSO, I WILL NOT DO OTHER MEN NOR WILL I BE ORALLY/ANALLY PENETRATED IN ANY FASHION BY ANY MAN OR WOMAN FOR THAT MATTER EITHER. ALSO OF COURSE, (ILLEGAL) DRUGS AND/OR (EXCESSIVE) ALCOHOL CONSUMPTION ANYWHERE ON THE PREMISE FOR ANY REASON(S) ARE CERTAINLY NOT ANYTHING I WOULD WANT TO BE ASSOCIATED WITH. AS FOR MY ACTUAL PARTNERS THEMSELVES, I WOULD PREFER THEM TO BE GROWN WOMEN WHO ARE SINGLE/DIVORCED WITH NO CHILDREN. THIS IS MY LIST OF NON-NEGOTIABLE PREFERENCES.

First write YES or NO next to each item to indicate if you have ever DONE that activity.

SPECIAL NOTE CONTINUED: AS OF RIGHT NOW, I CAN SAY THAT I HAVE NEVER DONE ANY OF THESE ACTIVITIES, SO BASICALLY, MY ANSWER IS GENERALLY NO TO ALL OF THESE IN THAT REGARD.

* indicates those items which you are willing to do only with you current sex partner(s), but not with casual play-partners.

SPECIAL NOTE CONTINUED: IN REALITY, I DON'T HAVE - NOR HAVE I EVER HAD - ANY ACTUAL, REGULAR SEX PARTNER(S), BUT I PUT A(N) * BESIDES THOSE ITEMS THAT I WOULD LIKE TO TRY OUT ONLY WITH MY FEMALE SIGNIFICANT OTHER (OR GIRLFRIEND/FIANCEE/WIFE) - IF I EVER EVEN MEET ONE IN MY LIFETIME.

Abrasion: 0
Age play: 3 Teacher disciplining a student
Anal sex: 3 I would never want to take anything up my butt, but if my domina was my girlfriend/fiancee/wife and she wanted me to fuck her in the ass, then I would be happy to oblige!
Anal plugs (small): NO
Anal plugs (large): NO
Anal plug (Public, Under Clothes): NO
Animal roles: 5 Female matador's bull; female trainer's circus elephant/bear/lion/gorilla; female poacher's elephant/bear/lion/gorilla; female horse jockey's steed/mount and/or farmgirl's dog/pig; various aliens and monsters are high on the list as well
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): 3
Asphyxiation: NO
Ass worship: 5 I want 2 smell a woman's farts up close and lick/kiss her booty!
Auctioned for charity: 0
Bathroom use control: 4 I want a domina to watch me sitting on the toilet while I use it. Then, I want her to put on a "stankface" as she comments on how much I can stink up the bathroom in disgust
Beastiality: NO COMMENT!
Beating (hard): NO
Beating (soft): 3
Bellypunching (hard): NO
Bellypunching (soft): 3
Being bitten: 1
Being serviced (sexual): *
Blindfolds: 2
Bondage (heavy): 3
Bondage (light): 5
Bondage (multi-day): NO
Bondage (Public, In Clothing): NO
Bondage and Sex: *
Boot worship: 5
Breast/chest bondage: 4
Breath control: NO
Branding: 0
Breast whipping: N/A
Breast worship: 5
Brown showers (scat): NO COMMENT!
Bullying/Harrassment: 5 See Bathroom use control; Bellypunching (soft); Caning; Coughing; Face slapping; Flogging; Facefarting; Humiliation (private); Smoking; Sneezing; Teasing; Toilet/Potty training; Verbal humiliation, private; Whipping and Wooden paddles
Cages (locked inside of): Depends on duration
Caning: 4
Castration: NO
Catheterization: NO
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): Depends on duration
Chastity belts: NO
Chauffeuring: 3
Chess gaming: 3 This one sounds pretty odd, but to me, chess playing often conveys erotic themes of dominance and brilliance.
Choking: 2 During Bondage and Sex
Clothespins breast/nipples: N/A
Clothespins labia lips/clit: N/A
Clothespins body: 3
Cock worship: NO
Collars (worn in private): 5 I will wear one for Animal roles and for Bondage and Sex
Collars (worn in public): NO
Competitions (with other Subs): 3
Corsets (wearing): NO
Coughing: 3
Cuffs: 5
Cuffs (metal): 5
Cutting: NO
Defilement/Wet and messy: 3 I want a domina to pour water, slime, mud, creme, food, etc. on me while I am in bondage or restrained and/or I want her also to take me outside to be a muddy and smelly pig pen and treat me as if I was a filthy beast; see Animal roles
Dilation: NO
Double penetration: NO
Electricity: 0 VERY LOW VOLTAGE, PLEASE!
Enemas: NO COMMENT!
Enforced chastity: NO
Examinations (physical): 4
Exercise (forced/required): 2
Exhibitionism (friends): NO
Exhibitionism (strangers): NO
Expectancy/Pregnancy: N/A
Eye contact restrictions: NO
Facefarting: 3
Face slapping: 2
Face smothering by ass: 5
Face smothering by tits: 5
Fantasy abandonment: 2
Fantasy rape: NO
Fantasy forced deep throat: NO
Fantasy forced cunt licking: 3
Fantasy forced rape anal: NO
Fantasy gang-rape: NO
Financial domination/Blackmail: NO
Fingering, Heavy: NO
Fingering, Light: 3 See Medical scenes. I want a medical/nurse dominatrix - with gloves on, of course - to finger my butt as if she is testing my prostrate before she blows some air into it and to finger my ears just a little bit before she blows some air into each of them
Fisting (anal): NO
Fisting (vaginal): N/A
Flogging: 3
Following hand signals: 3
Following orders: 5
Foot worship: 5
Forced dressing: 2
Forced homosexuality: NO
Forced masturbation: 5
Forced nudity (private): 5
Forced nudity (around others): NO
Forced servitude: 4
Full head hoods: 3
Gags (cloth): 3
Gags (penis shaped): NO
Gags (rubber): 3
Gags (tape): 3
Gates of Hell: 2 Short, temporary visits to that dark and fiery Underworld only!
Genital sex: * STRAIGHT SEX ONLY
Given away to another Dom (temp): NO
Given away to another Domme (temp): 4
Given away to another Dom (perm): NO
Given away to another Domme (perm): 2
Golden showers: NO COMMENT!
Greetings rituals: 3
Hairbrush spankings: 5
Hair pulling: NO I do not have any hair for anyone to pull
Hand jobs (giving): 3 Pussy only!
Hand jobs (receiving): 5
Harems (serving w/other subs): 2
Harnessing (leather): 5
Harnessing (rope): 5
Having food chosen for you: 1
Having clothing chosen for you: 2
Head (giving cunnilingus): 2
Head (giving fellatio): NO
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): N/A
Head (receiving fellatio male only): 5 Only from a woman - Many dominas do give head to their MALE slaves
High heel worship: 5
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): 4 Depending upon what circumstances the tongue is used
Hot oils (on genitals): 0
Hot waxing: 0
Housework (doing): 4
Human puppy dog: 5 See Animal roles
Humiliation (private): 5 Race Play/IR BDSM: White/Asian/Latin woman defaming Blacks by making stereotypical and racist (or 'Negrophobic'/'ghettophobic') remarks, skin color comparisons and references to old-style minstrel shows along with some additional 'coon' shaming
Humiliation (Public): NO
Hypnotism: NO
Ice cubes: 1
Infantilism: NO
Inflatables such as balloons and/or bubble gum: 3 Part of Teasing; blowing up balloons/bubble gum and playing with chewing gum; and even smothering my face with a bubble of chewing gum as she blows it up and eventually pops it
Initiation rites: 5
Injections: NO
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: 5
Interrogations: 5
Kidnapping: 3
Kneeling: 5
Leather clothing: 4
restraints chains: 5
restraints leather: 5
restraints rope: 5
Lectures for misbehavior: 5
Leg worship: 5
Licking (non-sexual): 4
Manacles & Irons: 2
Manicures (giving): 5
Massage (giving): 5
Massage (receiving): 5
Medical scenes: 3 Basic 'hospital bed' scene which is limited to a heart rate monitor and a respiration machine for good measure. I am writing up a few fantasy stories that feature nurses; I like to see women in sexy medical/nursing attire
Modeling for erotic photographs: 5 For personal references and/or memorable moments only; not to be distributed, displayed, broadcast and/or sold to the General Public for any reason whatsoever.
Modeling for erotic videos: 5 Same as Modeling for erotic photographs
Mouth bits: 2 ?
Mummification: 1
Muscle worship: 5 Especially if my domina has a nice, crossfit body
Nipple clamps: N/A
Nipple cloths pins: N/A
Nipple weights: N/A
Oral/anal play (rimming): 3 Women only!
Over-the-knee spanking: 5
Orgasm denial: 3
Orgasm control: 3
Outdoor scenes: 2 Negotiable or on a case-by-case basis; only in the sights/presence of fellow participant(s) and/or partner(s); regions that are deserted, secluded and isolated are MOST HIGHLY preferred
Outdoor sex: * Same as in Outdoor scenes
Phone sex (serving Dom): 4
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): 2
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): NO Same with Tattooing
Piercing (permanent): NO Same with Tattooing
Prison scenes: 3 Depends on duration
Pony slave: 5 See Animal roles
Public exposure: NO
Public tasks: NO
Pussy/cock whipping: NO See Castration
Pussy worship: 5
Riding crops: 2 ?
Riding scene: 5 As a male, I would love to be a passenger sitting behind a female rider as she steers/controls her bike, scooter, jet ski, horse, etc.!
Riding the "horse" (crotch torture): NO See Castration
Rituals: 5
Religious scenes: 3
Restrictive rules on behavior: 3
Rubber/latex clothing: 3
Rope body harness: 5
Saran wrapping: 2
Scratching – getting: 3
Scratching – giving: 2
Sensory deprivation: NO
Serving: 5
Serving as art: 5
Serving as ashtray: 3
Serving as furniture: 5
Serving as a maid: NO More like a BUTT-ler actually
Serving as toilet: NO COMMENT!
Serving as waitress/waiter: 4
Serving orally (sexual): * Pussy only!
Serving other Doms (supervised): 2
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): 5
Sexual deprivation (short term): 5
Sexual deprivation (long term): NO
Shaving (body hair): NO
Shaving (head hair): 5
Shaving (pubic hair): NO
Skate/Skateboarding/Skateblading: 3 Yes, believe it or not, I want to be dominated by a woman who wears roller skates and skates really well! (?)
Sleep deprivation: NO
Sleep-sacks: 2
Slutty clothing (private): NO
Slutty clothing (public): NO
Smoking: 2 Although smoking is not necessarily MY thing, I wouldn't object to a smoking domina blowing or belching out smoke in my face once or twice - and maybe using me as a Human ashtray
Sneezing: 2
Spanking in private: 5
Spanking in public: NO
Spanking in bdsm parties: 3
Spanking pleasure: 5
Spandex clothing: NO
Speech restrictions (when, what): 4
Speculums (Anal): 3
Speculums (vaginal): N/A
Spitting: 3
Spreader bars: 2
Standing/Sitting in corner: 3
Stocks (adjustable): 3 Do you mean as in Wall Street?
Stocks (fixed): 3 Do you mean as in Wall Street?
Straight jackets: 2
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): NO
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): NO
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): N/A
Strapping (full body beating): 2
Suspension (upright): 2
Suspension (inverted): 2
Suspension (horizontal): 2
Supplying new partners for Dom: 0
Swallowing semen: NO
Swallowing urine: NO COMMENT!
Swapping (with one other couple): 0
Swinging (multiple couples): 0
Tattooing: NO I would love to see my domina ALREADY tattooed, but I would not want her marking tats on me though
Teasing: 5 I want a domina to stretch out her pussy, do some belly rolls, spank her ass, spread out her butt cheeks and caress her boobs as she torments me and taunts me by reminding me of what I may NEVER get while I am imprisoned/chained up/tied up Also, I want her to both display and discuss her tampon(s) and some other feminine issues that most women usually keep personal and private
Tickling: 5
Toilet/Potty training: 4 See Bathroom use control
Triple penetration: NO
Triple penetration by 3 males: NO
Uniforms: 3 I love to see women in (para)military uniforms and/or office apparel!
Including others: NO
Vaginal dildo: N/A
Verbal humiliation, private: 5 See Humiliation (private); female-on-male humiliation: Fat shaming; geek/dork/nerd shaming; virgin shaming and SPH (small penis humiliation) accompanied by the usual insults such as 'strange', 'wierd', 'odd', 'stinky', 'stupid', 'dumb', 'slow', 'old', 'ugly', 'pitiful', 'pathetic' and 'loser' along with some evil laughs. Also, I want her to walk around and examine me while I am (mostly) nude - before she eventually laughs at my (small) dick and unshapely figure
Verbal humiliation, public: NO
Vibrator on genitals: 3
Vomiting: NO COMMENT!
Voyeurism (watching others): 3
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): NO
Video (watching others): 5
Video (recordings of you): 5
Water torture: 1
Wearing symbolic jewelry: 3
Whipping: 3
Wooden paddles: 3
Wrestling: 5 Women Versus Animals Matches (See Animal roles.) I have been a fan of catfighting; any type of combat matches involving women and women performing various feats of strength for a VERY long time; I enjoy ALL of the various moves and holds!


(If you all look carefully, you can see that I added some new fetishes to my BDSM fantasy list! Also, be sure to check out Queen Zorna - my fantasy dominatrix - whose folder is towards the bottom, for right now. I am sure that there will be many more additional entries as more and more members of this forum-board complete this questionnaire, too. One thing though - where is the Questionnaire for the Doms?)