Hi @Phenyx -- I'm not new to lifestyle either nor am i an expert (FARRRR from it ) but I've had a few bad experiences very early in my training that really made it hard for me to open up the way i needed to for my Master and my Mistress. I think the concept of trust can be taken lightly very easily. As slaves, we're so eager to please and find that one Dom to give our all too, especially when it seems like they get you right away like no else did. It's easy to get swept up and lose sight of common sense and even your safety.

What bothers me about some Dom's is if they dont take the time to earn your trust. Everyone has a background and some are more traumatic than others. I just think it speaks much louder when a Dom can take His/Her time with the slave get to know them, and help them face their vulnerabilities and apply to being obedient. I've had a mixture of the good and the bad, but it took years to get to the good.

That's my two cents