Quote Originally Posted by Phenyx View Post
As a masochist that relies on pain to keep her grounded and she is very curious and would like to ask a couple questions please.

Does one have to be a Sadist to understand pain?

Does one have to be a Sadist to understand a masochist's need for pain especially in times where that need becomes overwhelming?

Can a Dominant that is not a Sadist handle the levels of pain that a masochist may need at times? And if not? what is the appropriate steps needed to seek out help to take care of these needs?

Can a Dominant that is not a Sadist recognize the ques that there is a need building for more pain if the submissive does not always speak of this need?

As a masochist submissive seeking out a Dominant? Would you advise her to seek out specifically a Sadist Dominant due to the levels of pain she may need at times? If not? what questions would you suggest she ask a Dominant that is not a Sadist to ensure that there is no misunderstandings of future needs that may or may not complicate the relationship?
Your question almost answers itself - yes, you should seek out a Sadist Dominant. If you have a Dominant who does not enjoy giving pain to his submissive, he will always be worried that he is hurting you or going too far and will question your needs rather than complement them. Also he will find it burdensome to be at your beck and call as far as meeting your pain needs rather than as an activity he can initiate and/or enjoy as well.