Interesting and valid points.

Your own experience mentions 2 things: a history, and trust.

My issue with submissives who want to experience everything but without those two things. Continuous trustworthy experiences with someone grows trust in them. While it never takes away my agency and therefore responsibility, it allows me freedom to let go and rely on my Dominant partner.


My experience more and more is that submissives are treated badly, neglected or pushed into experiences that the did not want, in one case she explicitly stated that it was a hard limit. Then the Dominant told her that she has no choice in the matter anymore because she is now 'his', (all of this after a very short space of time) and her attempting to accept the situation because 'she must be obedient'.

This which I sketched above is not the same situation as which you describe, I agree, pigslave.