Submissive/Slave Please introduce yourselves here

[Rabbit1]

so that any questions can be addressed to you by name ---if you like to include a brief history in you inrtoduction please do so.

[learningtopleez]

Hi all,

I'm learningtopleez or LTP for short! I consider myself a submissive and have had two r/l Doms....sorta....I say sorta, cause the first one wasn't all that much of a Dom. The second one most of you have read about here. He and I are no longer a D/s couple...we are just friends now.

So I am a submissive, but for the time being, have decided to use this time to learn more about D/s, and BDSM in general. According to Max...the last Dom, I did learn how to pleez , so now I just await the knowledge of all forum members, and will be happy to answer any and all questions to the best of my ability!

[Katmandu]

Top o' the mornin' to ya'll! I am katmandu. I've been a sub for 2 years, exclusively with the same Dom. It's been a very rocky road, but we have both done research extensively, questioned many, more experienced people, along the way, and practiced what we've learned with others (well, He has, I have yet to) outside our primary relationship.

I hope I can help answer questions satisfactorily that anyone has!

[phragmites]

Hello, I'm phragmites, pronouced frag-my-tees (it's a type of reed). I was in a Mastery/submission relationship in the past, and am now married to a wonderful man who is, however, not versed in BDSM. We're both learning together in some senses, as my training was incomplete due to the tragic loss of my first Master (to Lou Gherig's disease). Because of my rather atypical route into the scene I'm able to answer questions about the philsophy of submission, and likely to be looking for answers in the B/D and S/M categories.

[shdowrnnr]

Greetings everyone

I'm shdowrnnr aka shadowrunner. A sub stuck in a vanilla marriage. My hubby has tried to be a dom but just isn't dominating enough. He's trying though.

[mali]

Hey, I'm new here....

I'm mali, i've been a a sub for as long as I can remember really.... but only started practicing it a few years ago. I've had a Master in the past, and I now am very happily living with my Mistress
I'll answer all questions as best I can!

[Nikita]

I'm Nikita,

Horrors! I've been turned into an e slut. I switch, but some would say I'm assertive with a strong submissive streak. And, I will switch with only ONE special person.

Mostly, I'm and 80-20, which means I lean towards 80% sub, 20% domme.

Glad to have finally admitted what I've written about in stories.

Haven't you figured it out yet? (looks down and blushes deeply)

[velvet_nectarine]

Hello everyone! I'm a submissive and always have been, but i only put words to my desires about eight months ago. I recently ended a vanilla relationship and am single, greatly enjoying it, and learning as much as i possibly can about BDSM. I generally know what i like and what i want, but i'm not yet sure what my limits are. I should be transferring to a 4-year college close to a large city (really, any city will do ) by next fall, so i'm hoping once i do i'll be able to actually make contact with other people who are into this lifestyle.

[submissivewife]

Hi everyone! I am a submissive and I love it. (Why do I feel like I am in group therapy?)

I love submitting to my Dominates. I have a Sir and a Master. My Master is strictly online and my Sir is online as well with occasional r/t involvement. I love serving and learning more about myself through my submission. I have found that through my slavery to my Master I am free. I have been into this lifestyle now for only a year (yes a rookie) and don't intend to stop any time soon or at all. I AM ADDICTED to being submissive.

Nikita, I knew it girlie! I knew you had to be a switch a domme and a cum slut sister!

subwife

[subdude05]

Hi, My name is Subdude05, I am english and an artist, im 20 and have enjoyed bdsm before i knew what it was, dreaming of it since i was about 13 and doing it at about 16 with my girlfriend/part time misstress of 4 and a half years. Although i enjoy the sceane more than she does, she has started to have more fun and i think shes finding her dominant side. I enjoy, tight bondage, light to medium cbt, humiliation play, and love rubber and pvc (but prefer rubber), we have quite a few toys in the form of a few whips, 5 gags, 2 rubber hoods and some restraints of various sizes and uses, oh and countless dildos, vibrators, beads and plugs of many sizes and shapes thanks of my girlfriend. when im not in bdsm i enjoy serching fo it on the net, rock music and its many forms and drawing/painting. Cheak out the cartoon threas in role play, its gonna be great if we get more people and some playing going on

[Devilkisses]

Hi everyone, I'm devilkisses. I've been submissive for as long as I can remember but have only been involved in it (knowing what I was doing) for the last year with my bf turned Dom. I'm a newbie just loving the experiences. I'm still learning a lot about the lifestyle and working on learning more about myself and Him, so I don't know how much help I'll be but please feel free to ask - I'll tell you exactly what I think.

Ummm, I'm not sure what else to say, I'll probabley be asking more questions then answering them but I guess in this lifestyle you never stop learning.

Hope to hear more about all of you, I won't go on and on about myself as I've introduced myself in the introduction thread.


I think these new "Ask a sub/Dom/Switch" threads are a great idea for the knowledge base!

[slaveinge]

Respectful greets to all Masters and Mistresses-bows-
My name is inge and I am a worthless sluttish slave.
I am a masochist. So I am thankful for abuse, degradation and humiliation in all ways by sadistic Masters and Mistresses. I`m bi. Yes I`m an old filthy slutslave, my ugly udders are deformed from wearing bondage round them very often and my holes are stretched from using big toys by myself and by others. My nipples and my clit are stretched from heavy rings, which are closed so I cannot remove they. I have learned to serve animals to. Sorry, I dont look for real, here I get what I need, but the time between the sessions is too long so I`m looking for online relationship. Thank you

[His_pita]

Hi I’m Pita. My Dom gave me the name when we first met online exactly 9 months ago today. It means “Pain in the ass” which I can be. But, good for me my Sir loves a challenge and I like to give him what he wants.

Like I said, we met online and began talking about how I have always known I was a submissive, but I didn’t have any knowledge of the world of D/s so I started reading everything I could get my hands on and it was a like a lightening bolt hitting me. I finally knew what I was and what I wanted.

My Dom and I fell in love quickly and began making plans to be together in real life. We we’re both in unhappy marriages and he has since gotten his divorce and I’m in the process of mine. Last week my Sir moved away from his home and went to a new state and to the apartment he rented for us. He is at this moment buying furniture and getting the place ready for when I can be with him hopefully in a month from now.

We are very excited to begin our life of 24/7 D/s. We plan to have a contract that we have already wrote and I will receive my collar when we sign the contract once were together. After we have been together for a year, we will have a collaring ceremony, I will get a new permanent collar and him a ring that will signify his complete ownership of me and our promise to be together forever.

My Joe is everything to me and my only real wish in life is to be the best submissive possible for him. He is my Sir and he is my Daddy. Mostly though he is the love of my life and I am so thankful that in this big, crazy world we have found each other.

[orchid]

hello,

i am orchid and i have been submissive since before i knew what it meant. i am married to my Husband and now Master, for what will be 10 years this June. we have only been explornig this lifestyle for about 2 years now and still have plenty of learning to do.

i love being dominated by Him. i work full time outside of our home, as does He, and i welcome the end of the work day, when i can drop the facade of being in control in my executive career.

i love being tied up and ravished and recently have discovered the joy of pleasure spankings, having only been spanked in discipline in the past. this year, we have promised each other to branch out and try even more things. as always, i will take His lead and am willing to try anything once. i am honoured to be His slut.

[Warhawk]

I am WarHawk, 21yrs old, in Michigan, USA. I have been a sub/slave for 2 years with my girlfriend, but need a real mistress so I can serve on the next level. I love pain, CBT, ropes, cuffs, anal play, practically anything except needles, blood, and feet. Love eating cum, love having orgasms taken from me repeatedly without consent leaving my body as just a machine for my mistress feeling my cock pulse, explode, and grow in her special spot. I am willing to try new things once grounds are set. Love suspension, humiliation, wax play. Looking for a mistress to meet and be trained to the next level!

[sweetlytormented1]

Hi I am sweetlytormented1...litually lol...
I have been in the scene for 2 1/2 years,though the feelings have been there since I was a child. I have been with my master for 17 mths & my once vanilla husband for 14 yrs,he has now got his own sub.

I love being spanked hard the harder the better & if restrained that makes it even more intense 'Mmmmm!!!'

I also enjoy writing my blog & going to fetish clubs & parties.

[liesbeth]

Hi i am liesbeth, a 22 year old slave.

I live in the Netherlands and as soon as i graduate i will move to the UK to be closer to Master who lives in London and to study more there.

Master and i are together since September 2005. In fact i am stil a newbie, i don't have much experience but i learn more and more every time in am with him. At the moment i really want to learn more about serving Master. Not only in a sexual way, but more with rituals and making his life more pleasant.

love
Liesbeth

[gloombunny]

Hi; I'm Natalie. I used to have more switchish tendencies, but it seems like for a while now I've been almost exclusively a sub. Or a would-be sub, anyway - I have basically no experience in subbing at all, to my endless discontent.

As much as I would like to have a dom* to call my very own, it doesn't seem likely to happen any time soon - I can't even satisfactorily explain my own needs to myself, let alone to anyone else, other than a vague certainty that most of what I read about isn't quite right for me. Also I tend to write really convoluted and lame sentences when I try to describe my problems, so I think I'd better stop now before I get in any deeper.



* By which I mean a dominant person of either gender. I can't bring myself to use "domme" - there's no "e" in "dominatrix", dammit!

[Primus_Pilus]

By which I mean a dominant person of either gender. I can't bring myself to use "domme" - there's no "e" in "dominatrix", dammit![/size]

Natalie, it's a french thing. Since Dominatrix is just the translation of "dominatrice" from french and the french have a tendency to gener specify things, like lamp to "la lampe", etc... Anyways, since the Marquis De Sade is the grandfather to most of our modernday BDSM literature (or at least the perveyor of the goods to our knowledge), french was the mechanism in which much of the terminology was derived. Hence, Dom/me.

Adieu!

~Primus

[gloombunny]

Natalie, it's a french thing. Since Dominatrix is just the translation of "dominatrice" from french and the french have a tendency to gener specify things, like lamp to "la lampe", etc... Anyways, since the Marquis De Sade is the grandfather to most of our modernday BDSM literature (or at least the perveyor of the goods to our knowledge), french was the mechanism in which much of the terminology was derived. Hence, Dom/me.

Are you sure it's not just a pseudo-French affectation?

[Primus_Pilus]

Are you sure it's not just a pseudo-French affectation?

Hrm, It might be, but I'ld be more inclined to believe that it was actually derived from a word instead of arbitrarily pulled outta some one's ass :P I'ld like to think that there's some method to the madness.

[caged]

Hello,

I'm a 35-year-old male slave. I live with my mistress/owner, having moved in with her after an 18-month online relationship through webcam, IM, email, phone. I don't have a job, so obviously all the housework and chores are my work, without exception. That stuff isn't as exciting as being bound, whipped or humiliated but is all part of my submission of course.

Happy to answer any questions, as per the point of this thread.

[submissivewife]

Sorry for what? It's great you are here. Hope you enjoy yourself.

[Aesop]

I have the compulsin to say sorry incase I have done something wrong, especialy when im talking to new people. I hope it doesnt annoy you all too much

It probably won't, but if it does you can always apologize.

[EnolaGay]

Now that is a truth. A very interesting one.
I have just come to realise that the people on this forum I have so far encountared have been the most patient and kind.

[DevotedSlave]

Hi im Debby the proud slave of mastervenom. i havent been doing this for very long and i am very eager to learn so i can be better for my master.

[redsonjaseattle]

Hi,
Just joined yesterday...I'm new to this, having started a relationship locally with a Dom in January and looks like I'm going to have to very sadly move on from Him.

Lots of reasons why, but i guess it comes down to this: i don't trust Him anymore, and that's a terrible feeling to discover, since he is my first Master.

I'm still sorting things out so that's why I am here. When i met him, He asked me to "open my heart, mind and soul" to him. After giving me his Collar, He made me learn his Vows and be able to recite them to him and also write him every day. He gave me assignments which i enjoyed doing, and a new name.

Things seemed to be going great until last week. And then he seemed to drop off the face of the earth, after urinating on me for the first time, then flogging me as i had my first sub-space experience.

I've been emailing him every day without a response, communicating my confusion and loneliness...and then i received a response from him today saying "I hope you are feeling better soon. but remember this is for fun."

WTF??? He's shaped me, molded me and now this...i am heartbroken. Am I just over reacting? This was more than just 'fun' for me, even though I'm married I expected...something more personal, i guess.

I don't know if this is 'done' in the D/s scene, but i replied to him "Are you or are you not my Master? You've made me very happy, and I like pleasing you. But i don't like mind games... so tell me now if this has just been a bunch of casual fucks for you wrapped up in D/s rhetoric."

Oh, i am still confused and scared, too. Any advice is greatly appreciated...and what do i do if he releases me? How do i return his Collar?
Am I crazy?

[Aesop]

First of all welcome to the forums Sonja. Something a lot of us learn during the beginning of our BDSM journey is that the BDSM community is just as full of jerks as the vanilla community. Now I don't know all the specifics so I won't label this man as a jerk, but your reply seems warranted. I wouldn't worry about what is 'done' in the d/s scene either. What is done is what you want to do. Each d/s relationship is different and made up of what the people involved want it to be made up of. End of story. There's no right way to do it. After telling you to open yourself up the way he did, he should have taken responsibility for those feelings and it looks like he's back-pedaling now. His collar is a symbol and nothing else. If the feelings behind the symbol have died then you simply give it back to him. I know I make it sound easy and it isn't, but that's the bottom line. You will find friends here if you look for them and you may count me among them. If you would like to chat or just vent in a pm feel free. I may be a stranger, but I've seen your situation many times. Good luck to you.

[Tojo]

redsonjaseattle, you don't sound crazy to me- crazy would more like if you were to put up with being treated in a way that was unacceptable to you.

In my opinion, as well as the majority it seems- do as Aesop says, & forget about what's 'done' in the D/s world.

A D/s relationship is like any other, it's between 2 people & to hell with what others think. Seems to me many of the people who don't care about what they're doing are the ones who spout 'rules' & what you should or shouldn't do.

Do what is right. If someone betrays your trust & won't listen to you, do what it takes.

As far as him 'releasing you', you have the right to do as you please, the same as anyone. If not, laws are being broken.

You have to decide for yourself what you want without compromise. If you can't sort it out with him you know better than anyone what you have to do.

As for what you said- "so tell me now if this has just been a bunch of casual fucks for you wrapped up in D/s rhetoric."

Well put, I couldn't have said it better myself! Sounds like you've got it pretty well figured.

Tojo

[Ozme52]

All too often, one's first D/s relationship will follow a path similar to one's first romantic relationship. Just as that highschool romance can be heartbreaking, it is also a life lesson. A few blossom and last, most don't. But the lessons learned will lead you to making good decisions in the future.

...and what do i do if he releases me? How do i return his Collar?
Am I crazy?

If he releases you, in my opinion, move on. Maybe even if he doesn't release you. Trying to hang on to a bad D/s relationship can destroy your self esteem. The collar, don't bother. It sounds to me like it was just a prop for him. If he asks for it back, mail it.

Ultimately, you're in charge of your submission.