i guess this post is the reason i signed up ..

for the past 3 years i have been experimenting with D/s to certain degrees but all have been at the safe distance of online or telephone. i have met someone within the past 6 months that enjoys a bit of D/s in a live setting but not to the extent that i am finding i need.

what i'm looking for is your suggestions as those far more experienced then me, where to go in the toronto area that i might be able to observe and potentially meet people of my ilk.

a couple of things that are musts for me right now ..

1) this has to be a place that is safe for me to go alone
2) this must be a kink dress optional place (i'm not into dressing in public .. for now)
3) this must not be a "beautiful people only" place
and lastly,
4) this must be a place where i can observe without fear of criticism

for me this is a lifetime committment and i'm not in any hurry but i do feel that i am ready for the next step.

also, any thoughts, suggestions or guidance any Dom/mes have for unescorted subs, i would greatly appreciate it.