heya,

newbie here (obviously) and i have soooo many questions...i really need to examine and define and learn how to deal with this crazy (or not so crazy) and INTENSE desire i have to be DOMINATED!!!! and why the last few times my fiancee and i have had "rough" sex i have found the SPANKING to be sooo much more fun than the SEX.....!!!

so basically i would love to chat to subs/doms or anyone who can explain to me more about bdsm.....more about the reality of the lifestyle and what it means to you, cos i've already read a lot about the THEORY behind it on various websites, but that isn't really the same as PERSONAL EXPERIENCE, so please talk to me and let me know your thoughts and experiences...and i will ask plently of dumb or hopefully not so dumb questions...

thanks 4 reading