So here is a topic I have been giving a fair deal of thought to recently. I am a sadist, I genuinely enjoy seeing a consenting woman enduring real pain for me. In fact I enjoy it much more knowing that she *does not* like the pain, yet non-consensual acts, even as a fantasy, do nothing for me so it is not pain for pains sake that I need.
What I have realized over the last couple of years is that, to me, a slave *enduring* pain is an act of devotion on her part. The pain makes the surrender real, and the surrender gives the pain meaning. Neither is whole without the other.
Of course this is not the only way to make surrender real but it is for me one of the most powerful.