meliand3

I just read a post about emotional reactions and bdsm. I know that I had a strange childhood and that for me bdsm helps me to work out some of my own emotional problems in a good way. is that healthy? I know that some of my emotional problems are what causes me to enjoy bdsm sooooo much, it is why I am a sub, does everyone have some life-changing memory of their previous experiences that cause them to enjoy bdsm or is it just a thing?