Snuggle Time?

Question for everyone out there...

How do you feel about snuggle/cuddle time?
What do you define it as?
Does it have to lead to something else?
How much snuggle time do you feel is important?
Do you enjoy it?
Do you feel it's importance is gender based?
Do you feel it's importance is role (Dom/Sub) based?

love snuggletime
sitting/lying close together in intimacy but not nessecarily naked
no it doesnt have to lead to something else
how much.. cant answer that but atm I get too little of it :p
Yes I do enjoy it
no it isnt genderbased, I think it is "person based". I have met girls that dont like it and guys that loves it.
No it isnt Dom/sub based cause nillas likes it too. It is person based :)

How do you feel about snuggle/cuddle time?
~~I love it most of the time...there are times when I don't the physical contact though.

What do you define it as?
~~hmm..depends...a night on the sofa with a movie and popcorn, comfy jammies and a blanket together. Then there is the time after playing.."aftercare"--I need the snuggle time after a scene with my Sir.

Does it have to lead to something else?
~~no, it is "something" by itself!

How much snuggle time do you feel is important?
~~Depends, but I can speak up when I need it!

Do you enjoy it?
~~Yes, very much!

Do you feel it's importance is gender based?
~~Not at all. I think everyone needs nonsexual physical contact.

Do you feel it's importance is role (Dom/Sub) based?
~~not at all!

Hmm. This made me think.

I am not a snuggler. Too much of an invasion of personal space, I guess. I say that, but I'm all about the invasion of my personal space. It's not so confusing when you apply my blonde logic to it.

Now, I like hugging up on Red, but that seems to be a different sort of snuggle altogether. ;)

I'm thinking of becoming a smuggler, however.

:wave:

*kind of intrigued by Tessa's answers - but you would nejoy snuggling and feeling close with me, no?
I get the idea that you'd want to protect your personal space of course - I do too, most people do, and that's largely unspoken...

I agree it doesn't have to be about sex, it may even become softer and warmer when both know it isn't leading to sex. With a good movie, a bottle of good wine and snacks nearby and a friend you really like, oh wow..

How do you feel about snuggle/cuddle time?

I need more of it in my life :)

What do you define it as?

Quiet time of non-sexual closeness--playing with her hair or holding her head against my shoulder.

Does it have to lead to something else?

No. Sometimes it follows something else or is a just the goal in itself. It is a safe space to just 'be' with each other.


How much snuggle time do you feel is important?

As much as both of us can stand. Like Tessa, there are times I get wiggy about my personal space but it comes down to what you need at the time.

Do you enjoy it?

Yep.

Do you feel it's importance is gender based?

Most women I've known have enjoyed cuddling to a greater or lesser degree.

Do you feel it's importance is role (Dom/Sub) based?

I found early on that it is really important for subs to feel close and safe after a scene. When I neglect that aspect of aftercare, they have a hard time reintegrating. I think we fail our partners when we don't allow for that time.

There are also times (with work or life stress) that the Dom/me needs snuggle time. Having open communication will make sure that everyone's needs for cuddling are met.

How do you feel about snuggle/cuddle time? It can be very comforting and a time for bonding.

What do you define it as? Any time when you are enfolded in the others' arms, each the others' arms. It can be standing (albeit this is somewhat too brief in my estimation,) sitting, or lying side by side.

Does it have to lead to something else? No... and often it follows 'something else'... a scene or sex, but doesn't have to either.

How much snuggle time do you feel is important? That's totally dependent on the two people and the circumstances that led to the feelings of affection that prompted it.

Do you enjoy it? Absolutely!

Do you feel it's importance is gender based? No, though I think a lot of women have been "taught" that it is... and that men somehow as less inclined to want it. By the same token... the converse is true as well.

Do you feel it's importance is role (Dom/Sub) based? I would offer the same answer. Just substitute Dom/me and sub for men and women respectively in the previous answer.

Snuggle Time?
Question for everyone out there...

How do you feel about snuggle/cuddle time?
- It is vital, without it I would go mad.

What do you define it as?
- Time spent together, physically close (preferrably lying down, either watching something brainless but amusing together, or either the ultimate relax methods of us - me reading a book and him playing some computer game, lol.

Does it have to lead to something else?
- No, I agree with gagged Louise´s point of view here.

How much snuggle time do you feel is important?
- Depends on both our moods. Both more time alone and snuggle time are necessary when we are stressed by outer circumstances.

Do you enjoy it?
- Hugely.

Do you feel it's importance is gender based?
- I share Ozme´s view.

Do you feel it's importance is role (Dom/Sub) based?
- No. A Dom with little self-confidence might have a problem admitting to his need, though.
My Dom is not self-conscious (and you have no idea how glad I am about that fact).

How do you feel about snuggle/cuddle time? I feel human contact is essential to any non-sexual relationship, take the parent/child relationship, without that human contact the child may not learn how to bond. In a sexual relationship where sex is not the only part of things then cuddeling is just as essential.

What do you define it as? any human contact that is meant to be comforting, could be a hug, or having your back rubbed in a soothing manner, or simply curling up together on the couch

Does it have to lead to something else? it definitely does not have to lead to something...but it's fun when it does

How much snuggle time do you feel is important? this would depend on each individual person, and where they are in life, I have days where work has been a very bad day, and it sure would be nice to come home to a hug, other days, not so much

Do you enjoy it? I love it...except when I'm in a bit of a hyper mood, then it just slows me down

Do you feel it's importance is gender based? not the importance of it, but more the anatomy of it, for instance, in most cases you would imagine the man holding the woman, the woman curling up in his lap, I guess by anatomy I would be refering to size difference, the bigger is usually holding the smaller

Do you feel it's importance is role (Dom/Sub) based? again that would depend on the relationship. if it is purely based on sex than it can possibly be overlooked, but include the emotional side of things then it is a very important aspect of any relationship

How do you feel about snuggle/cuddle time?

Most of the time I love it, but like others have said, there's time when I just need a teensy bit of personal space.

What do you define it as?

Most of the time for us it's just snuggling up close while we sleep or lay in bed. Other times it's him resting his head on me or vice versa or simply holding hands while watching tv.

Does it have to lead to something else?

Nope, doesn't "have" to although quite often I've noticed that what starts as hand holding while laying in the bed progresses to running fingers up and down my arm, moving on to my nipples, and...well you get the idea. *grins*

How much snuggle time do you feel is important?

A lot. We're practically joined at the hip when we're not working so we don't lack in the snuggling department. :-)

Do you enjoy it?

Love it.

Do you feel it's importance is gender based?

Like a lot of women I guess, I've grown up with the assumption that women generally like snuggling more than men, but I'm usually the first to separate when I'm needing that personal space bubble back.

Do you feel it's importance is role (Dom/Sub) based?

Not sure, but I will say that, back when my dom and I were having a lot of scenes, I definitely "needed" more of the snuggling and cuddling. Now that we don't scene as much, it's much more of a want than a need in my opinion.

How do you feel about snuggle/cuddle time?
I think it's very important, it lets you both just relax, unwind, destress, etc. together.

What do you define it as?
Basically just being able to relax together, whether it's on the couch watching tv or a movie, or in bed laying together.

Does it have to lead to something else?
No, the snuggle time in itself is just as good as anything that might transpire from it.

How much snuggle time do you feel is important?
As much as possible

Do you enjoy it?
Of course

Do you feel it's importance is gender based?
Not necessarily, I think it's a personal preference thing, some people don't like cuddling, while others do.

Do you feel it's importance is role (Dom/Sub) based?
Nope, I think no matter if you're D/s or vanilla, a good cuddle can make anyone's day better