Watching/Being Watched??

I've been here reading my little heart out, but havent contributed much as of late. All good things must come to an end however and here I am bending your ears and hoping for some personal reflections on this situation. So have any of you been watched? Do any of you like to watch??If you have been in this situation can you please describe how and why it occurred? Were there any consequences of the exhibitionism/voyeurism afterwards? How did it make you feel?
I am asking because we have a friend (male Dominant personality) who has shown some interest in this. IF (a big if) we chose to allow this I am curious about the feelings and thoughts that others have had who have "been there done that."
As always I look forward to all of your enlightened responses. let me make this clear that he would be there as a nonparticipating party at this point.

I have done both, and I guess I prefer watching others to being watched. I am/was a swinger and at parties it is hard not to watch. I respond to being watched by focusing even harder on the woman I am with to block out that someone is watching.

Not sure if that helps or not

Talking about sex, or bdsm? They are separate. I've watched, and been watched in play, but not sex.

Being watched can be rather invigorating, especially when people give you good comments on how the play went. Watching someone can be educational, since you can learn things from their technique.

To clarify...we would be the ones being watched...well I guess technically I would be the one being watched and I believe the intention is a play session that ends in sex. Only 2 lonely responses so far...hmmm maybe Im out on a limb here!?

In a scene, watching or being watched, I've done that. Didn't really turn my personal crank... now if I had my submissive with me and she were decidedly uncomfortable being watched... or decidedly excited by being watched, that might get me into it.

Sex... well I think my problem with watching is I'd want to participate. LOL. I don't know about being watched... but then... if I were watching and then participating... I guess being watched comes with the territory.


sipgirl, if you're not sure... I could come back east and help you set up a test run. :D

Ahhh yes the great and powerful Oz has spoken!!!!Dont tease me about comin' back East Oz thats like threatening me with a good time!!
I think the significant aspect of this situation is that He knows how degraded, somewhat humiliated and yet completely turned on this entire situation will make me. I mean I cant even fathom the idea of someone watching him crop me, watching me on my knees at his feet, his hand wrapped in my hair and the other round' my neck..and just knowing someone else ( a Dominant someone else) is there...watching...seeing me in total submission!!!Whew!!Ok....thats enough of that!

Sorry... haven't had a lot of experience with this so can't offer much...

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Originally Posted by sipgirl

I think the significant aspect of this situation is that He knows how degraded, somewhat humiliated and yet completely turned on this entire situation will make me. I mean I cant even fathom the idea of someone watching him crop me, watching me on my knees at his feet, his hand wrapped in my hair and the other round' my neck..and just knowing someone else ( a Dominant someone else) is there...watching...seeing me in total submission!!!Whew!!Ok....thats enough of that!

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It sounds like you're going to enjoy yourself! And you'll be generous and share all the details with us, right? Please? :rolleyes:

The idea of being caught on film (video) while having sex is a no-no to me, though webcam I could use with someone I trust. Being watched by live spectators as I'm beaten, whipped , bound and/or sucking cock, now that is a very hot proposal though (hey Jeanne, you know this). Something i really would want to do - and would love to read of your experience of it too, sipgirl.

That does remind me however... we called a mutual friend the last time we were together, and she, a sub, was treated to listening to mine counting out her treatment over my knee. It was very intense, with orgasms on the part of both ladies...

Which also reminds me... I'm owed a written report.

You know who you are... don't make me come out there and half to put you over my knee too...


Or DO!! :D

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Originally Posted by sipgirl

So have any of you been watched? Do any of you like to watch?

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YES! Oh my YESSSSSSSSSSSSSS!!

Not so enlightened, but I make up for that in my enthusiasm.

:wave:

well, ive watched Owner enjoying one of my sister slaves in the past. it's been a long time ago now as ive been away from home way too long but at the time, to be honest, i felt a bit bored and left out. i wasnt really bothered but i wasnt thrilled either. i think thats because i didnt understand things yet in general and i didnt understand about her yet either. i also wasnt comfortable yet with my own feelings so.. short end of the stick for me back then *wry smile*.

but i think id feel differently about it now as ive changed alot and i understand now about how things are. Our relationship has solidified, im more centered in who i am, who We are so i think.. well.. im kind of curious to see what it will be like now *smile*. im sure i'll find out in due course *smile*. ive developed other ways of thinking about it that may make it enjoyable *shy smile*. oh and of course she saw Him having me as well, which was fine. it was neither here nor there for me as she was family. ..hmm.. thinking of it that's probably changed nowdays too. *smile*

Owner has let an outsider watch me before *blush*..uh.. well for example He's had a Domme guest over for supper one evening. i was eating curled up at His feet as usual. after We were all done eating and They were chatting there on the couch, He had me pull up my skirt and masturbate to the edge of orgasm in front of them both.. then He let me beg for an orgasm and denied me. i believe He let me put my skirt down then and They went on talking. i was very embarassed .. but.. uh *L**shy smile* i guess it was pleasantly..*blush*. i still had mixed feeling about it at the time but.. i enjoy the memory now *blush*

but no there was no consequence for it as it was in Our livingroom and i gather She quite enjoyed it *shy smile*. well.. actually i think there were consequences for Her as She rearranged Her life afterwards, but that was Her choosing.

well and She watched me do the same again later that evening. She stayed over and Owner left me in Her room, to keep Her company and in case She wanted anything i guess (He didnt explain that i recall). it was a very hot summer night so i fanned Her while She lay on the bed and we talked. the time for my .. well it was time for me to do it again so i did, after She gave me permission to do so in Her company.. and.. uh i gather She enjoyed that as well *shy smile* (i think She joined in when She thought i wasnt looking *grin*)

i think i rather enjoyed it. i know i enjoyed Her enjoyment of it, if that makes sense. Plus i liked Her for herself, which helped. *smile*

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i think i rather enjoyed it. i know i enjoyed Her enjoyment of it, if that makes sense. Plus i liked Her for herself, which helped. *smile*

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From what I heard and saw next morning, I would say that our Guest enjoyed it *wicked grin* As I recall, she almost stayed ... to join you in chains.

I've always meant to ask, though ... who undressed her? I mean, I know I told her my slaves sleep naked and together, just so it wouldn't come as a shock but .... Am I missing something? *scratching head*

well, Owner, She just whipped Her clothes off at one point. i think She'd been in a night shirt or something, i dont recall .. but i remember She yanked it off in one smooth motion and chucked it across the room *smile*. i'dve done my duty and helped but.. there wasnt a chance.

to be fair, it was really hot up there. (that's my story and im sticking to it *L*)

sipgirl,

As far as watching a couple or being watched as a couple I have little as far as actually experiences to offer. But the one occasion where I have been watched was simply a vanilla sexual encounter and while I don’t recall being bothered by the fact we were being watched by a male friend of mine, I also don’t recall that it contributed anything significant to the experience for me. So I’m fairly confident that having someone watch me and a partner would not be a tremendous turn-on or anything. In the same incident I watched him have sex with the same girl and again didn’t find it to be tremendously exciting. She was a girl we met in a club and made it plain she was willing to leave with us and have sex with both of us, so there was no great emotional involvement there. Actually I find it a bit curious that the actual experience of watching wasn’t all that profound because I have since viewed porn with men and women having sex and that has always been somewhat arousing.

My only other experience was while dating a girl several years ago, after going to bed one evening, out of the blue she asked me to masturbate while she watched because she thought it might be a turn on for her and had never watched a man masturbate before. I agreed and to be honest actually felt a little self-conscious about it but judging by what happened afterwards, I would have to say that she did find it to be a very big turn on. The circumstance with which I have had the most experience is watching a girl masturbate which I have experienced numerous times and that definitely I find very arousing. A part of that I’m sure is the fact that I enjoy the fact she is doing it because I’ve asked her to. But I also simply love to watch what I consider to be a very beautiful and moving scene.

In fantasy sometimes am aroused by thinking about watching a woman I happen to be dating or otherwise involved with having sex with another man, but it is always in the context of her being caught in unfaithfulness in “the act” so to speak and neither of them would be aware that they were being watched. But again, I’m quite certain this something that I find arousing in fantasy but not something I’d actually want to be involved in real life.

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…I think the significant aspect of this situation is that He knows how degraded, somewhat humiliated and yet completely turned on this entire situation will make me. I mean I cant even fathom the idea of someone watching him crop me, watching me on my knees at his feet, his hand wrapped in my hair and the other round' my neck..and just knowing someone else ( a Dominant someone else) is there...watching...seeing me in total submission!!!Whew!!Ok....thats enough of that!

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After reading your third post in this thread, I do believe I can understand and see why you feel the experience would elicit the emotions and feelings you described. These I think would be atypical of a submissive’s point of view, especially one who finds some degree of humiliation to be arousing and submissively significant, and makes perfect sense to me.

I hope you will share later how you felt should it happen that you do participate in the experience you described.

hrm... I like watching.. I like doing... unsure to being watched... we've not been watched yet.

I love being watched and taped and I love to watch, humiliation is only a feeling that is allowed by you, even in the midst of others you still allow those feelings, I am not humiliated easily and I take pride in my body, soul and mind.

A good many years ago before Jason and I were together one of my boyfriends liked to let his friends watch. It made me rather unnerved but at the same time OMG it turned me on. I have always gotten kind of turned on by things like that. When we used to have big parties I would just wait for the moment I could get hubby upstairs and let everyone at least listen to how much fun we were having lmao.

I watched one Master with his slave as he tormented her, first with bondage, floggers, crop, the violet wand...her serving him and to me this was wonderful. I saw many views, from the loyalty and devotion, trust and level of submission as she gave over to him, and his attentiveness and care, even as he was whipping her, or the evilness as he teased and tormented her with the violet wand.
I helped him sew her up, from handing alcohol swabs to taking plastic and caps off new needles, although I was sure I was going to run at some point, but I didnt because he was counting on me to be there.

To me watching all this was an amazing experience and taught me a lot

I do not like or enjoyed being watched, this makes me downright uncomfortable.

Life is about experience...you wont know untill you try. And then tell us all about it *wink

Exactly.

I haven't taken my (relatively new) sub publically/in public... yet...

...but we had occassion to allow her best online friend to listen in to an otk spanking... her counting, her being egged on by her friend to take it... to cum... how hot she was... and to listen to her friend cum herself...

Though a little "reluctant" in advance, afterward she was amazed at how sensual it was, how exciting it was... and now she wants to serve me... and be seen doing so.

Whether it was intentional or not, thank you both so much for inspiring and reminding me to keep myself open and willing to grow and learn.
I appreciate this.:rose: