We get sub drop do Dom/mes get a drop after play..??

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07-24-2008
snowflake

We get sub drop do Dom/mes get a drop after play..??

I never really thought about this question.. but we always talk about sub space and sub drop.. What about Dom/mes...?? Do they get any kind of drop off after play...???

Or do you find you get a bit angry or different after play..??

Just wondering

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snow
07-24-2008
xadianx

I've wondered that myself..
07-24-2008
_ID_

Called Dom Drop. Yes we go through it. Though it's not the same as sub drop, it has similarities.
07-24-2008
snowflake

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Originally Posted by IDCrewDawg

Called Dom Drop. Yes we go through it. Though it's not the same as sub drop, it has similarities.

Sir if it would not be to much of a bother do you think you could explain it a bit .. i truly would like to know as i notice my Dom feeling different and would like to help him if i can... but not knowing .. i feel a bit lost at what to do..

i don't want him to have a bad feeling after we have had play..

Thanks in advance

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snow
07-24-2008
snowflake

Quote:

Originally Posted by xadianx

I've wondered that myself..

Thank you .. now i don't feel so quite out of place asking.. Nice to know it maybe worth the asking..

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snow
07-24-2008
uninspired42

I'm a switch, but I tend to feel really subbie just after I've finished domming someone.
07-24-2008
snowflake

Quote:

Originally Posted by uninspired42

I'm a switch, but I tend to feel really subbie just after I've finished domming someone.

I also take a dommish side sometimes when requested by my Dom or if in chat and i feel the same way or i feel really empty inside.. Is that what it is like..??

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snow
07-24-2008
Ragoczy

I don't know how it is for others, but I sometimes get a feeling of having lost something after a scene. An aching, emptiness, like a part of me went missing when I wasn't looking.

What helps is touch. I wrap my arms around my kitten and hold her tight; the more she melts against me, the more skin-to-skin, the better I feel.

'course, that makes me feel pretty damn good any time, so there may not be a connection ... ;)
07-24-2008
snowflake

Quote:

Originally Posted by Ragoczy

I don't know how it is for others, but I sometimes get a feeling of having lost something after a scene. An aching, emptiness, like a part of me went missing when I wasn't looking.

What helps is touch. I wrap my arms around my kitten and hold her tight; the more she melts against me, the more skin-to-skin, the better I feel.

'course, that makes me feel pretty damn good any time, so there may not be a connection ... ;)

Thank you Sir.. that sound just like sub drop in a sense.. as far as needing a touch goes and comforting.. not so much the emptiness with sub drop it is more like a feeling of needing to know you did well security that all is ok...

Thank you so much for your input .. i hope more get back on this..

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snow
07-26-2008
WyldWyl

Quote:

Originally Posted by Ragoczy

What helps is touch. I wrap my arms around my kitten and hold her tight; the more she melts against me, the more skin-to-skin, the better I feel.

What he said. :D
07-26-2008
Ozme52

No... I still disagree with the concept.

We, or at least I, have a reaction but it is rarely a drop. Closer to a euphoria.

Drop is (usually) caused by the reaction to endorphins which are associated with pain and/or physical stress. So unless the dom is beating his subbie at a marathon-runner's pace.

This question closely relates to a previous discussion over Dom Space.
07-26-2008
Midnite

the drop for me usually is, a sincere concern that I made my sub happy
08-14-2008
snowflake

Quote:

Originally Posted by Midnite

the drop for me usually is, a sincere concern that I made my sub happy

i think that is what Master feels also ..concern i wasn't disappointed and well that i am ok.. both emotionally and physically..

But i feel that is also what sub drop is like in ways also.. Wondering if i was a truly good girl.. wondering if i let him down in any way or whether he appreciates what i went through to make him happy as well.. As for me i am not happy unless i have pleased him completely...

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snow
08-14-2008
snowflake

Quote:

Originally Posted by Ozme52

No... I still disagree with the concept.

We, or at least I, have a reaction but it is rarely a drop. Closer to a euphoria.

Drop is (usually) caused by the reaction to endorphins which are associated with pain and/or physical stress. So unless the dom is beating his subbie at a marathon-runner's pace.

This question closely relates to a previous discussion over Dom Space.

This from Yahoo

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Pleasurable activities cause the release of endorphins, and this endorphin-rush can conceivably become..?
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This is all true. Pleasurable activities also release Dopamine, which is actually more important than endorphins for certain behaviour.

Endorphins just give you a rush. Dopamine gives you a high AND makes you addicted.

So i guess now my question is: Is it more a Dopamine drop more so then a endorphin drop for Dom/mes?? As i am sure there is a lot of pleasure in play for the Dom/me as well or they just wouldn't be a Dom/me

But just as it is a stress on the sub to please her Dom/me during play can it not also be a stress to the Dom/me??

I mean if the Dom/me truly cares for his/her sub should he not be stressed whether he is giving them full pleasure or fulfilling their needs..?? Can that not be a stress that would cause a Dom/me drop as well?

Also just as in a marriage or bf/gf or any other kind of relationship .. can there not be stress in a D/s Relationship?? Always trying to make the other happy or content with the situation so you never break up or have problems?..??

Also, is it not possible to feel a bit of a drop if r/l has effected how you preform during play.. Does it not make you wonder if it effected how you gave and they received what you did.. and wonder if you feel let down let alone your sub..??

This is an article i found that kind of touches all of this ... Maybe it will clarify what i mean by this

Code:

http://www.steel-door.com/Dominant_Drop.html

One last thing.. Does a Dom/me not cause physical stress while tying someone up getting them in position and afflicting the pain by swinging the flogger and such..??

I know at times it can be quiet a work out...

Anyways just some thoughts after reading what has been said so far..

My opinion

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snow
08-14-2008
_ID_

Quote:

Originally Posted by snowflake

Sir if it would not be to much of a bother do you think you could explain it a bit .. i truly would like to know as i notice my Dom feeling different and would like to help him if i can... but not knowing .. i feel a bit lost at what to do..

i don't want him to have a bad feeling after we have had play..

Thanks in advance

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snow

It depends on why he is feeling bad. Is it regret over what he's done to you? Or is it a drop of endorphins. If it's the former its only him that will be able to reconcile his desire to hurt you over his desire to protect you. If it's the latter, then if you are able, get him some water, some electrolytes a banana perhaps.

To help him feel okay with what is done, reassure him that you also enjoy what is done. Most of all, just try and be there for him during his recovery period.