Please help. :'(

I am very new to this scene. My on-line Master has ordered me to cum using my hands before the end of the night... he knows that it is damn near physically impossible for me to do this. I am not turned on by the touch of my own skin, and I don't know how to re-condition myself. He has forbidden me to use anything else to bring myself off... only my fingers. I don't know how to do this, and I'm panicking... If I don't get it done before I go to bed, he's going to punish me tomorrow. Has anybody else had this problem before? If so, how did you solve it? I could use all the help I can get. He is probably going to punish me just for posting here without his permission... but I am so desperate right now, I don't know what else to do. Please help. :'(

not sure how to help, just try your best and explain to him how hard it is for you. he should be able to understand and maybe give you another task instead....

You are not doing this for you, you are doing it for your Master.
feel him and do it

I wish it were that simple. :'( He seems adamant about this. He knows its hard for me but thats why he wants me to do is so bad, I think. I just wish I could get over this minor flaw... I can't remember using my own fingers to cum for as far back as I can remember. It's just not natural to me. I wish I knew somebody who has been through the same thing and has overcome it. :(

Well, it sounds to me like he is setting you up for a punishment. Do you like this kind of interaction?

In terms of the actual task, I suggest NOT touching for as long as possible. Lie quietly, in the dark, and think of your most arousing fantasy. Hmm - you don't like the touch of your own skin. Wear panties. Get as hot as you possibly can. When you're humping the sheets, gently use - not the tip of your finger - your fingernail, to scratch lightly across the panties over your clit. Pull the panties tight so you can barely feel your nail on your clit. Keep doing that. At some point, I predict that your aversion to your hands will be overcome by your desire to get off.

Please keep us posted.

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Originally Posted by rachel06

Well, it sounds to me like he is setting you up for a punishment. Do you like this kind of interaction?

In terms of the actual task, I suggest NOT touching for as long as possible. Lie quietly, in the dark, and think of your most arousing fantasy. Hmm - you don't like the touch of your own skin. Wear panties. Get as hot as you possibly can. When you're humping the sheets, gently use - not the tip of your finger - your fingernail, to scratch lightly across the panties over your clit. Pull the panties tight so you can barely feel your nail on your clit. Keep doing that. At some point, I predict that your aversion to your hands will be overcome by your desire to get off.

Please keep us posted.

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Thank you so much for the advice. I will try it by putting the panties on top of me first, because I'm not exactly allowed to wear them. ;) Not until later tonight anyway. Thanks again for the suggestion. I think you might be right about that last part. :)

Honey, it doesn't seem right to me that you're going to be punished for something that's outwith your control. I can't remember the last time I came using my fingers - not when there's batteries and nipple clamps in the world. Maybe desperation will provide that extra push you need, but I doubt it. You say you're new to this and I suspect your Master is too. He should really be training you to come like this over time, not threatening you with punishment when you fail to achieve the impossible. Punishment is for wilfull disobedience or poor, undesirable behaviour, not really for this sort of thing.
Give it a good go, and tell him how hard you tried, but really, you both need to talk about this as you seem to be at cross purposes. He should understand the difference between good intentions and (untrained) impossibilities, and you should appreciate that you have a positive right to be led in a way that's fulfilling for you.

The best of luck, but you really shouldn't be panicking over this, just preparing to have a good talk with your reasonable, I hope, Master.

Pearlgem x x

think to yourself......

"these are my Masters hands"....and feel his hands on your body. Keep saying/thinking it....

these are my Masters hands...........

They are not your hands touching yourself.......they are your Masters hands.......

I have a few suggestions for you to try. First, I would have a glass of wine (or tea, or beer, or whatever) and look at some porn. Sometimes I don't find porn all that interesting - pictures work better for me. Try to make it purposeful - like you send any images that turn you on to your Master, or look for new positions to be bound in or things you might be interested in trying. It may help if you write a sentence about what you like about the image. After getting into the right frame of mind, spread your lips with one hand and with the other lightly touch your clit. Try different movements, like tapping or swirling and see what works best for you. Once you get going (I hope you can get going!) try turning over and make a humping motion on some object, like the floor or the corner of soft chair. He didn't say you couldn't use a chair, did he? Imagine that you are doing this for him, that he is watching and how well you perform will determine your fate in the near future. When we think someone is watching, we tend to be a little more outside ourselves and embody sexiness and sensuality a bit more (I think).

If you get stuck, go back to the porn. If you still can't do it, document your efforts and beg for forgiveness. If you try hard enough, a good Master should be willing to work with you and you can try more training sessions to improve on your masturbation skills.

Good luck!

b

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Originally Posted by thrall

think to yourself......

"these are my Masters hands"....and feel his hands on your body. Keep saying/thinking it....

these are my Masters hands...........

They are not your hands touching yourself.......they are your Masters hands.......

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I agree with this completely but would like to add....close your eyes...imagine him in the room...hear his voice...imagine the words he would be telling you if he were there...and then let him do his work through your hands.

I wish you luck...and more so fun ;)

Thank you guys for all your help. Unfortunately, I wasn't able to accomplish this task, but my Master was actually really understanding about it. He was just happy that I tried my hardest and was proud of me for trying for him. He wasn't hard on me at all and I'm grateful for that. But I really just want to thank you guys for your helpful suggestions. Its nice to know I have such a great support system here when I need it. You guys have been very sweet and welcoming so far. Thanks again. :)

thats what we are all here for.......


big hugs...thanks for the update on how it all went...

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Originally Posted by sk8192379

Thank you guys for all your help. Unfortunately, I wasn't able to accomplish this task, but my Master was actually really understanding about it. He was just happy that I tried my hardest and was proud of me for trying for him. He wasn't hard on me at all and I'm grateful for that. But I really just want to thank you guys for your helpful suggestions. Its nice to know I have such a great support system here when I need it. You guys have been very sweet and welcoming so far. Thanks again. :)

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Ask him to browse some of the threads on position practice and creating a submissive mental state in your head... It will help create a state of mind in you that will make these kinds of tasks not merely easy, but it will become hard for you to hold your orgasms off.