i have started this thread on another site and i am interested to see what results that i get on here so here is the question. How would you cope, and would you look for another Dom/Master/Domme
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i have started this thread on another site and i am interested to see what results that i get on here so here is the question. How would you cope, and would you look for another Dom/Master/Domme
um "How would I cope if my boyfriend died?" gee I dunno... how do other people cope with stuff like that?
Look, I'm not sure if you are aware that you just asked a bunch of random people how they would react if their husbands/wives/girlfriends/boyfriends/best friends died and if their reaction would be to find a new life partner or maybe search for someone to 'fill in the hole' physically for the time being.
No one really knows how they cope with death until they do and a lot of the time it depends on the nature of your relationship with the person and how they died... like of a terminal illness or from a car accident.
Two years ago this May my Mistress/Wife died, i am 59 years old and she was my Mistress for 30 years. It rips the guts right out of you, and there is no way that i could ever replace her in either roll, and even now i still have trouble coming to terms with being without her. Take notice though, whether in vanilla or BDSM this is an inevitable fact of life in any relationship, but to lose two parts of your existence at the same time as i have, is something that you can never replace. Apart from the memories, that part of your life is gone for ever, and you walk the lonely road of dispair and discontentment, and continually asking yourself [what if and why]?Quote:
Originally Posted by singletaillover
Regards ian 2411
I'm with flying 666, I have no idea what I would do and I prefer to cross that bridge when I get there. I think maybe a more logical person would actually think about this, since it is an inevitability...
I will say that I was never really afraid of dying, being a person who subscribes to that whole "energy is neither created nor destroyed, so we've all been mother/father/sister/brother to one another throughout time," returning to the earth and becoming part of life again kind of thought process. Anyway, I was never afraid until I found the love of my life. Now I never want to have to say goodbye to him, as stupid as that sounds... and I'm much more afraid!
i have had to recently cope with idea of Him having heart surgery, when His father died of it less then a year ago. it scares me to pieces, as i have never had someone anywhere like Him in my life. i love Him to the very core of my being and i think i would be very much in the same place as ian. my heart goes out to you, it really does.
i was married to my Husband/Master/Owner and the day before our 25 yr. anniversary, He passed away from Lung Cancer...He found out on His birthday and 10 months later was gone. You would seem to think that because His death wasn't all of a sudden and there was 10 months there, that one can become more prepared for it but, that's not true. It still hits you like a ton of bricks! Just two days ago was the 5th yr. anniversary of His death and He is still very much missed and will always be a part of my heart. One thing that came out of it though, was an appreciation for each new day. i've been with my Owner now for seven months and never does a day go by that i don't tell Him, i love Him and i cherish every minute, as if it was the last, cause you never know...it could be! Huge hugs to you ian!! Ahhhh, not used to posting like this, just felt the need..i suppose! :)