27 yo female submissive seeking dominant (M or F) + weight loss help

Hello,

I think I have a very specific person I'm looking for and I realize I might not find that person here. First off, I used to be in the lifestyle for several years but got out of it for a few reasons. While I do not consider myself new to much, I have no participated in a few years. I find lately that I miss it a lot and want to try my hand at an online "relationship". I want to state up front that I am in a serious vanilla relationship that I will not compromise. I do, however, feel as if a part of me is missing without some D/s in my life.

I've never submitted to a girl before but I admit the idea quite turns me on so I'm definitely interested in a female dominant or male. I'm not looking to be degraded or be a doormat, but rather find someone who is capable of having meaningful conversations but who is controlling, sadistic, yet understanding.

A main interest I have is a dominant who is willing to help me make dieting and exercise a bit more interesting. I currently work out 2-3 days a week, and know I should go more, and the idea of having goals to meet (I'd like to lose about 75 more pounds) or else face punishment is interesting to me and something I'd like to explore. I will state that I am NOT into being degraded, so it you do not have nice and encouraging things to say, please do not reply.

I'm a busy professional with an extracurricular life. I am working towards my graduate degree and I play some sports. That said, I don't have an overwhelming amount of time, but I do have free time. My ideal relationship is through Email and IM. With the invention of smart phones I think this makes communication still easy enough.

Ideally I'd like to serve someone (male or female) within my age range but this is not set in stone. Pictures are fine but for now I'd be more comfortable not to show my face. My main interests are with control and rules. Mild pain play is ok but I do not consider myself a pain slut at all. Some mild humiliation is ok, but what I most miss is the control.

Thanks for your time!