Losing the personal prounoun.

I'm not a subbie prone to disobedience, but it happens...or happened. In His dealings with me right after it, He immediately reverted to speaking to me in the third person. He also expected me to respond in the third person. It was quite a shock and most definitely not an experience I wish to repeat soon. But it did get me thinking:

To the Dominant members:
Do You sometimes expect Your submissive to respond without using the personal pronoun?
If yes, what would those circumstances be?
What would be the effect You want/expect on the submissive?

To the submissive members:
What are your experiences? Is this something positive for you? Or negative?
Do you find it effective (whether as play or punishment)?


I am a member of another board and a submissive who is into objectification had her personal pronoun removed in all BDSM dealings. She wrote her experiences and people on the board were downright rude in the way they judged, what is to her and her Master, something very special.

Why do you think people react so negatively to hearing/ reading: 'she is' or 'this girl is' instead of 'i am'?

I've never really considered this. I've never had a Mistress refer to me in the third person. It was either, slave-boy, butt-head, dick-head, pussy licker or scumbag. I just accepted them as part of my role.

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It was always you are my slave-boy etc. It was never "He's My slave-boy, unless She was intoducing me to another Domme

I was taught to serve is not about "me", as a submissive or slave. This is not about me and the best way to remove any personal thoughts, "I need, I want, I see, I thought", you remove the "I".
Physically I was taught to walk behind the Trainer, except to open doors or ensure His seat is clean or...and here, instead of physically walking behind, this is the mental aspect of walking behind.

I could be wrong.

Personally I find it very liberating, but then it's not used in a way that takes away from me. For me it is almost that I assume a different role, I gain a sexy persona I wouldn't normally dare to explore and therefore I am free to enjoy it. When talked about in the third person, or if I describe myself in the third person it gives distance which allows me to be much more free. Probably not very healthy for the mind to be fragmented in that way, but it works for me.

But I can equally see it could be used as a punishment to strip you of identity.

Love xx

We tried it for awhile. He stopped it since it was hard for me to keep up and keep it up to always refer to myself in the third person - plus it wasn't too sexy for me to stop and start sentences when I screwed up...same issues if he tried talking about himself in the third person.