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I haven't been around in ages. I'm taking some time off from projects this winter and decided to network some.
My name is Dianna. I am a lifestyle Mistress for over 15 years. I am from South Florida but now live on a farm in Virginia. I love to write fiction.
Dianna Vesta
:wel and a Happy New Year to you too.:)
You look cute and devilish! That's a wonderful combination!
Fury
lol- well "cute" isn't an adjective normally used to describe me especially if you actually met me! It’s ok. I like cute but most people would use words like;Quote:
Originally Posted by FurryFury
Complex, demanding, Queen, Goddess, Penetrating, Sadist
Then occasionally I get;
Demanding BITCH, unreasonable, scary & other words I won’t use here.
It depends on who you ask.
So what’s the scoop around here anyhow? From first glance it appears that there are mostly dominant men & sub women? Or a good mix of all? Any RT lifestyle players out there?
Dianna
I think there are some RT lifestyle players yes. There are some Dommes as well as the Doms.
Of all those words I like penetrating the best! *c*
I haven't been here that long but I suspect there might be a good mix here. Perhaps not everyone that makes up that good mix posts that much though.
Fury
Well there is me and you. Lets get something going.Quote:
Originally Posted by FurryFury
So what's your story? You top/bottom/middle? Married/committed/single/looking? What are you thoughts on BDSM?
What's missing in your life?
Anyone can answer these questions btw. I love to meet you all!
I feel I am submissive but so does my husband so we tend to take turns. I am looking for something/someone/some RL experience but not to leave my husband.Quote:
Originally Posted by diannavesta.com
Not much is missing in my life other than the feeling of submitting to a person secure in their own dominant nature and kissing/stroking a woman.
My thoughts on BDSM are too much for me to write atm, I will try to come back and expound on them later. This is a hella busy day for me.
*blows kiss across the ethernet*
Fury
Okay I should be getting fucked right now but so far nada! *grr* So I have a few minutes. *sigh*
BDSM to me is about finding someone you can trust and building a relationship of mutual respect with them. In my case, it would be about finding a Dominant because that is what my soul cries out for.
I prefer sex with my scenes but if the Dominant in question didn't do that I think I could not only make do but truly enjoy a strictly D/s situation.
I would never do this however unless my husband was okay with it and I got my courage up.
In the meantime the occasional spankings and other rough play I can get from my husband, along with my fantasies and online activities will have to do.
I am feeling closer to attending a munch though.
If I have not covered what you were looking for just ask more questions.
And I might ask you one.
What is your philosophy of BDSM?
Fury
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Originally Posted by FurryFury
I am not sure my philosophy is etched in stone. It works for me but not for everyone. I have been involved in the scene since the mid 80’s. I was already involved in spirituality, Goddess worship/pagan – loved rituals, sexually open-minded, etc. I was fascinated with the human psyche and the complexities of nature. I use to have dreams/fantasies that I was a Queen/Goddess and had servants. This was long before I even knew about BDSM. There were lots of little signs along the way.
Once I discovered it it really hit home with me. Back then things were more scary & taboo but it did interest me because it tied right into my whole Goddess scene. I literally invented my own scene and later found other women who felt like I did.
I am a female supremacist, so to speak. It’s not really up for debate here. It’s just what I’m into. In my circles women rule even if they are crawling and begging (because they choose to, are sexual beings and ultimately control the sexual arena). So I might have two female and several makes. The females are always above the males even if they are submissive. The reasons for this is not because I hate men… I love submissive men. It’s more of a spiritual philosophy then anything else. One that I’ll write in my book (see link at bottom Feminine Manifesto).
I am strict and very controlling. I have my reasons for this but I also enjoy being this way. I control what my slaves eat, drink, do, money they earn, etc. Still I have some that dabble and this is ok if we agree on a few set rules that make me comfortable. If I’m not happy no one is happy!
I think that if you and your husband agree to be with others this is ok but just be careful. Maybe the two of you should seek out a dominant couple or one mistress you both could see. This way you can both share the experience and allow the intimacy to build between the two of you. Otherwise one you find that person who controls your deepest desires you might being to detach from hubby. This is natural which is why I rarely accept married slaves unless there is a very strict understanding or approval from the wife. I could never be intimate with another woman’s husband so the play would be non-sexual.
You have not been to a munch? Oh you two should do this together. Seriously. Meet other people for support and it’s a lot of fun!
Yes, I do know that we should be careful. I am very careful because I don't want to hurt what we have or him.
I think your BDSM philosophy is interesting. Lord knows I've often thought one sex was superior to the other. I just don't always think it's the same sex. *L* Sometimes I do and sometimes I don't.
I think we all embody both sexes, the yin and the yang. I know I do in some ways.
You way of doing things sounds very interesting.
I've only become consciously aware of BDSM urges this last year.
Fury
Hello,
In answer to the questions:
I'm a female sub, and bi-sexual, I've had Master's in the past and now have a Mistress who I currently live with. I've always known that I was a bit 'different' and there were always signs, even from a young age that when I look back on really show I had a kink.... but I only discovered about the whole BDSM idea when I was about 15 I think.
My thoughts on BDSM, (from a sub's pov of course...) are that it's just the most wonderful feeling to submit to a Dom/Domme. Thats what BDSM is for me, and thats what I love about it so much; pleasing your Dom/Domme to the height of your ability and making them happy with you.
The absolute trust involved makes a relationship very strong as well; as I discovered with my second Master and my Mistress now.
Well, those are my ideas and thoughts, and welcome again Dianna:)
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Originally Posted by mali
Thank you Mali
Mali you mentioned signs since early on. Can you elaborate? Also how did you discover BDSM at 15? Please tell me it was with other 15 year olds.
Finally- is your submission solely based on giving pleasure? Can you give examples and elaborate here? I'm sure many people will find that helpful.
DV
Welcome Dianna,
So glad to have you with us. A goddes and a writer, too. A great combination.
I couldn't find your link at the bottom, but perhaps you've got the signature turned off.Quote:
Originally Posted by diannavesta.com
If you get a chance, please visit the authors section and comment in this thread: The Rocky Road to Publishing
http://www.bdsmlibrary.com/forums/showthread.php?t=3129
It's a great place to promote your book and to share any pointers you've gathered as an author.
To your continued success,
Ruby
Thank you Ruby. I will go by and check it out. I must of forgot to put a sig in CP.Quote:
Originally Posted by Ruby
Great site Diania....I love your opening page. Although I am women the last paraghaph sounds so like me.....I do crave that whip when I can't have it! It has been so long too. I think it's time to call my Sir and tell him his whip is calling me.;)
Oh yeah, Welcome to the Forum.:wel
subwife
My personal site is just an information page. Nothing fancy. I'm revamping www.othersex.com to include user cams, user home pages, new forums, it's a free site.Quote:
Originally Posted by submissivewife
Now go get your whipping! Lucky girl!