What was the first submissive thing you did?

My first recollection of submissiveness i'm afraid isn't all that exciting either, but the topic is "your first"... lol

I was always a polite kid and as a youngster, I was "that single boy" that often got invited to girls' birthday parties. Of the many girls i befreinded as a young boy, i used to spend some time with two sisters that i went to school with. One was my age, the other a year older. We spent lots of time colouring, jumping rope (i did have my share of male friends as well!) and playing innocent games. It never occured to me then, but everytime we played house, there was a disagreement of who i was to play. I always opted for the family dog, the girls of course opted for me to be the husband.

Interstignly enough, even today, i think i'd still rather be the dog. lol Curled up at my Mistress's foot, waiting to jump at Her command... swoon...

bent

abitbent thats so sweet:)

I think the first submissive happenings i can remember, was with my ex-fiance. We were sitting around one night and talking about a few thngs after sex, and i mouthed off about something and he turned me over on my stomach slaped my ass once good and fucked the hell out of me.. it was great. We had fooled around previously with some bondage but i never really looked at it as submission till then. *shrugs* I may precive things oddly

*looks around meekly*

a little bit of light bondage...
it has taken me the last three years to realise what truly fulfills me, but i'm here now :)

:(

I still haven't got that first experience of submissiveness to relate to you *sigh*.......

But will be back first thing, when I have something to tell ;)

Duetta

Well I don't really have any childhood experiences which nicely foreshadowed the way I turned out but my first adult experience with bdsm was pretty nifty, since I managed to kill two birds with one stone. I'd been thinking of experimenting with another guy for a while, and eventually I got up my nerve to ask this guy a friend of mine knew. So I'm over at his place having my first gay experience and I joke about how his bed'd be pretty convenient for tying someone up to. He just grins and says "Well actually...", before pulling a box of goodies out from under the bed, and it was on for young and old.

So yeah, fun all round. And since this is a BDSM forum, you guys'll be happy to know that fun though the whole other-guy thing was, it's a night that I'm always gonna remember mainly as my first bondage experience :D


Rallan

My first experience was with my bf. He was pulling and twisting my nipples, and getting rougher and rougher. It felt so good, but pain too. I was sort of trying to get him to stop, but not very hard. He then started pinning me with his body so I couldn't fight back. After that, we bought some restraints, nipple clamps, and a variety of toys. :)

There's a childhood incident which I vividly remember. When I was about 10, I had two good friends, Eric and Dave, who I would play cops and robbers with. That was all pretty tame, but one time, Dave's older brother (who I had a crush on) joined the game and took it further. The three of them tied me up with a jump rope and carried me into a shed (more of a playhouse, really) they had in Eric's backyard. In the shed, they tied me to a chair, gagged me and left me there for a little while before letting me go. For months after that, I tried to get Eric and Dave to repeat the experience, but had no luck. When I was 16, I found a boyfriend I trusted enough to share some of my tamer fantasies with and finally got tied up again.

I have to say, I do wonder now why the brother, who must have been at least 16 or 17, was tying up 10-year-old girls in a shed.

-acissej

It was a little after college. My girlfriend and I were at her apartment and she just kept wheedling me (I never could say no when she gave me that face and those big brown eyes). We went to her bedroom and stripped, she put a small dog collar on my cock and then forced a little padlock through the material of the collar. After making sure it was secure, she attached a chain. Leading me out to the living room (with all the shades drawn), she put in her favorite movie and had me suck on her toes and tits while fingering her clit to pleasure her. (I never went as far as eating her, for which I regret for we broke up shortly after that.) Now when I want to get turned on, I think about that night, being led around by the cock. (I almost went nuts one day in a Spencers when I saw an item called the big dog leash, but didn'y have the guts to buy it.)

it would have to be last summer. my boyfriend's parents were out of town, as were my parents. i slipped over to his house. we didnt actuall have sex (we were only 15) but i stayed there for three days. during that time he keept me naked. i had to sleep on the floor beside his bed and wear a dog collar. as he watched tv he would have me blow him. he even made me eat out of a dog dish! on the fist day i was caught drinking some of his beer so he made me take a shit outside in his backyard! my avatar is a picture of me on my chest after i did it. i enjoyed it all! i never knew i liked that kind of stuff!

I'm sorry to inform you, but this is an adult website. I'm afraid, unless you're 18 or older, that we're going to have to ask you to leave until your 18th birthday.

Sorry about that, but it is the law.

sorry about that. i dint know. u can delete this acount.

my first experience was an over-the-knee spanking with a ping pong paddle. Dang did that sting, and i loved it!

The first D/s thing I did was to tie The Girl to the bed fully clothed; push up her skirt, undo her blouse, roll up her sleeves and blindfold her; then use a combination of fingertips, tongue and periods of not touching her at all to drive her into a frenzy. I didn't even touch her genitalia for an hour.

*sigh* And I used to be so innocent...

My first recollection that I was "different" came in Junior High School. We had this dean of students who was the biggest man I had ever seen. He was African American and was so tall and muscular. During 8th grade I worked in the office as an assistant for one semester. My desk was close to his office and I could hear every time he disciplined a student. I used to sneak looks at his desk when I walked by to try and catch a glimpse of the paddle. One day, after an especially long paddling, I felt myself growing wet and daydreamy. Out came Coach Swift with the paddle still in his hand. I must have had some strange look on my face because when our eyes met he looked at me and chuckled, "Girl, you want no part of this." He then went back into his office and I made a hasty retreat to the restroom. Looking back now, I think he must have known what I was thinking . . . even if I didn't at the time.

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Originally Posted by Alaric's pet

Girl, you want no part of this.

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*giggles* That is too much! I love it! I can easily imagine that scene. Thank you for posting about it. :D

Nothing quite so glorious or fun as playing. My first true submissive act was being made to talk about my submissive desires.

For me it started around 12 - 14 I guess. We had one of those long dog chains. I used to wrap myself up in it. It just felt right to wrap my hands or feet up in that chain.

Years later, I took my 16 year old girlfriend (I was 17 at the time) to the Spring Semi-formal. I remember I had a tie on. We left the dance early and headed back to her place where we knew her parents were out.

At this moment in time we were both virgins. As we made love, I removed the tie and tied her hands togather above her head to the frame of the bed. I slipped into her a few minutes later.

Afterword she easily slipped out of the bonds. A few days later she said "tie me up again" and we were off to the races.

One night I threatened to beat her if she didn't behave. "Could be fun." she said. :D

To this day I wonder what ever happened to her. I still dream of her sometimes.

Well, I've always been such a self-confident, forceful, take-charge kind of gal....but, remembering back to childhood, my friends and I would tie each other up, and I should have known, when I was mature enough to start masturbating, those were the moments I would fantasize about....it confused me, because I always thought of myself as Dominant.....but those Sub moments would just rocket me into orbit! Now, years later, (and being married 7 years!) I finally have the courage to admit my truest desires! I only told my Hubby about my fantasies @ 4 months ago, and WOW! He wants to be a Dom, and "the game is afoot!"

I had always been very timid when it came to thinking of anything sexual. So I was pretty hard to crack. Needless to say a few guys have tried & failed miserably. But my BF had been working (& failing more than once) to get together with me.

Again, he had his chance as I was coming into town to go to a friends wedding & needed to stay at his place (which wasnt a rare thing, I had always done it, even after I knew he wanted me). But I was also bring a friend of mine who needed a place to stay. That was my downfall. She & him talked, he told her how much he wanted me, blah, blah, blah... & she worked for 2 days on coercing me into truth or dare. That night, I was sold hook line & sinker. He started off by getting me to perform my first ever BJ, then he had me kiss my friend & it worked up form there. I still remember that first night, he had fucked me once & I had Nicole straddled over my face, tied to the bed & we werent even playing the game anymore. It was just those two doing as they wished with me. From that night on, I went from naive goody-goody, to sub addicted fucktoy. If that night hadnt happened, I would still probably be a single virgin having a miserable existence on this planet.

Nothing like bringing an old thread alive.... :p

I would have to say the very first thing I did that was submissive happened when I was 16. I was spending the night over at my best friend’s house who was 2 years older then me. We snuck some of her parents wine and were sitting in bed talking and drinking, catching a major buzz. We started talking sex. I had told her that I had listen to her and her bf making love the last time I spent the night. (he was always sneaking in her window) She asked me how it made me feel. I told her that it made me feel warm and fuzzy laying there listening to their lovemaking. That I was jealous because I was still a virgin and never been touched by anyone but myself. Well before I knew it, she was straddled on top of me, pinning my arms down to the bed with her hands. She scared me at first as she started kissing me and sticking her tongue in my mouth. I finally relaxed and let her kiss me, realizing how much all this was turning me on. She told me to lay perfectly still as she laid my arms above me. I did what she told me as she ravished and explored my body. By the time it was all over she had taken my virginity but left me with a memory I will never forget. :D ;) :eek:

Its kinda weird that my first submissive actions were with another female, when it is being ruled by a Master that I have prefer and have always fantasized about.

angelpet

hi, my first entrance to bdsm was from reading stories in forum magazine, i then started reading stories to my girlfriend who told me the idea of me dominating her was a hell of a turn on so we bought some bondage tape from a shop and i tied her to the bed with it on several occasions, the first time i just made love to her while she was tied up, the second time i teased her mercilesly with ice cubes and bit her nipples. the third time was the best as i not only blindfolded her but i also used my fingers, a coke bottle and some ice to make her cum time and time again, i think we stopped after she had 25 orgasms and the sheet beneath her was saturated with her cum. she was so tender afterwards she could hardly walk the next day. we did discuss many things we would like to try with me being dominant and her being sub, including me letting other guys use her for sex while she was tied up (her idea) but unfortunately she left me shortly afterwards saying she couldnt cope with a long distance relationship anymore (we were only 160 miles apart).

The very first submissive thing I did with my first Master was allow him to tie me up.

I spent 7 1/2 years married to a very vanilla woman who I honestly don't think enjoyed any kind of sex. I don't think I was anywhere experienced enought to help her work through her repression and as a result even the vanilla was boring. During that time I started to get inklings that there was something else out there... I bought handcuffs and got her to use them once or twice, but she wasn't into that either and I wasn't even sure why I wanted them!

My next serious gf was great in bed and very experimental, so together we explored and I became enlightened. I wouldn't say I was submissive at the time though but the scening-and sex-was great.

The next woman to enter my life found clothespins in my bedroom before we were even dating! It didn't take her long to figure me out and well, you can imagine the rest. Needless to say we live together now and plan to marry.

So for me, my first "submissive" experiences don't actually coincide with my first BDSM experiences, if that makes any sense.

I was about 12 and on a week-long church outing in NH. I was horsing around with a girl named Cheryl in the girls room. It had about four mattresses pushed together on the floor. Cheryl was able to twist her way to on top of me and I slipped between two mattresses with her firmly in control on top. She went to kiss me while I struggled to get loose, but she was sitting on my chest and had my arms pinned above my head. When Cheryl's lips got close to mine I relaxed and let it happened. My first kiss and not another one has ever been close to it in the feelings it stirred in me.

On the other side of the coin:

I was working in Vegas and trying to go out with this co-worker, without much success, when I said the magic words one night "I got pot" We were getting high and talking about alot of stuff. She was getting divorced. One of the reasons was she really had to work to get her husband to spank her. The other reason was he was fucking her best friend.

We were seeing each other every night after work as friends, but that was as far as it went. After many nights of talking about her spanking fantasies(I was not to quick on the uptake then), I took her to a dirty bookstore and she went thru the racks of books and found one that interested her.

When we got back to my place, I gave her a highlighter pen and asked her to highlight those passages and words that spun her wheels. After about an hour, she handed it back and I flipped thru the book and found a few pages that she had really marked up. I read the passages to her and when I had finished I asked her how it made her feel. To this point we had never even kissed, but she took my hand and put it down her pants and into her panties. She was soaked. She looked at me and asked "Do you think you could spank me?" Without missing a beat, "Why yes I can", I replied. She got up and went and took a shower. While she was doing that I was frantically thumbing thru the book looking for phrases that turned her on. At the same time, I'm trying to come to grips with my reluctance to strike anyone else(a childhood thing). I realized from talking with her for many weeks that she was frustrated about never finding anyone that enjoyed spanking her. Although it looked good for sex tonight no matter how things turned out, if I didn't really get into her kink that it would unlikely go little farther than that.

She stepped out of the bathroom naked. I told her sternly(OK, I did my best at this) "You had been very naughty and needed to be punished" "Yes, sir" When she got close to me I took her hand and pulled her over my lap, but before she was face down she looked at me and squeaked "But I promise to be good" I never really thought about my reply which was "Well, that will not help you now young lady" I roughly pulled her over my lap, but at the last instant saw this glazed faraway look in her eyes. To be honest, up until this point my vanilla sex life and my feeble attempts at foreplay, never really got the girls that worked up before sex(maybe even during sex), but that was not the case after this spanking. She was totally mine then and it felt incredible.

We were married about six months later and have been together for 13 years since. She has taken a recent interest in BDSM, which has some problems for us, since she looks on me as too a nice guy to be her Dom.

TJ

That's a wonderful story TJ, I guess you'll just have to change her mind on the nice guy bit, I'm sure you can think of numerous ways of doing that! ( assuming that is what you want? )

i had to post to this thread, as it hit sooooo close to home. i had totally discounted by husband to be my Dom. After being married for 17 years, i was completely convinced that he could never be an effective Dom for me. However, i was proven wrong, which he thoroughly enjoys reminding me of every chance he gets! :p

When I was about 7 years old, a teenage boy and girl in our apartment complex teased me a good deal. At one point, they said they had a club that I couldn't join. This got me very upset and I said I would do anything to join their club. Well, they talked among themselves for a few minutes and then said for me to follow them.

The three of us went behind some bushes in the complex and the girl said I had to suck the boys cock to be in the club. I had never even heard of anything like this, but immediatley said OK. He dropped his pants and I got on my knees and sucked his cock until he came on my face. What was most interesting is that she watched the entire time and even directed me a little bit.

It really didnt' mean much to me at the time, but now when I think back on it, it's a real turn on.

very basic and simple in nature, but i have always, since i was a child and especially since i started dating, been one to sit on the floor next to my s.o. while watching tv or movies curled around their legs...or if sitting up on the couch, i am usually laying with my head in their lap :)

Well i am just getting into the lifestyle and i would not even bother trying with none of my vanilla ex-girlfriends. But a couple of years ago when i was working at Dunkin Donuts in highschool there was this older girl i worked with who i was friendly with but she always had an attitude. i think she knew i was submissive before i did because she would always yell at me or insult me. Even sometimes calling me a fagot or insulting me in front of customers or other employees. I never really understood why i liked it so much but now that i do i wish i still had her number.... :rolleyes: