Hiya
This is a HUGE issue for me through my years in the online community.
Why should the one party be showing all the trust while the other can hide behind a title to keep their security...
Type: Posts; User: misty {HBMan}
Hiya
This is a HUGE issue for me through my years in the online community.
Why should the one party be showing all the trust while the other can hide behind a title to keep their security...
Hi Scorpe
Well done on first doing research. A power exchange dynamic can be such a mind-blowing relationship to have, especially when both are open to making the others' fantasies come true.
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I've been active online for about 8 years now. I can unequivocally say that the thing Doms do that really makes me angry is when they mistake domineering for Dominance.
Ordering me around or...
*grins at Phe* oh, I know that feeling... confidence, not arrogance, makes me feel all squirmy inside too!
Thank You also, SirWhitefang, for Your response. I must agree, it is personality, that...
Dear humble_worm
Forgive me if I am being forward here. Might I offer a few suggestion on how to perhaps attract the type of Dominant that you are looking for.
It is a common misconception...
Agreed, medunsa, and thank you for your very true words.
The important part for me is here:
The agency is there. It just isn't there for the world to see. And it doesn't need to be.
I...
I've been contemplating the power exchange dynamic (Something I enjoy doing) and I have a question for both D and s.
What is the one characteristic that catches Y/your eye when meeting someone,...
Thank you for your response. But ... is asking for things to be done to you, service? I don't think so.
Does this mean that a LDR cannot have acts of service?
Interesting and valid points.
Your own experience mentions 2 things: a history, and trust.
My issue with submissives who want to experience everything but without those two things. Continuous...
@Jumphigher: an excellent point.
My Dom and I had a discussion recently where we commented on how, wanting the pain He is going to give me is part of the appeal of playing with pain. As a Dom,...
This is an excellent question, foxy. It underscores the need to exercise caution, to negotiate well, and be mindful when exercising agency and giving consent. Be very sure you have reason to trust...
This is so important. Both give, both take. In different ways and different things. If it is one sided, either the giving or the taking, it isn't going to end well.
I couldn't agree more JD. That is another thread I plan on writing. I've been doing some research and will share that soon.
Regarding agency:
I think new people look at old, established...
Agency is an important aspect of any relationship. Together with consent, it forms the basis of WIITWD.
Agency is defined as:-Psychology Today
It worries me that practitioners of BDSM place...
I asked the Dominant version of this question to the Dominant Ones, but I also wanted to know: How do you express your service to your Dominant partner in an online or LDR?
Are there specific acts?...
I am having fun, reading the old threads and found this.
If only more people would create such a list, and ask the tough questions before jumping into a scene, perhaps there would be less damage....