How do you approach the hard questions?


I hate asking questions that make me uncomfortable!!...i just hate it. I don’t like skulking around the edges, looking at the elephant and never talking about it. Bing a sub can sometimes cause a problem with my natural inclination to take on problems head on.

Being in an open communication relationship makes talking about problems or nagging questions easier, but sometimes even that isn’t enough. I still feel uncomfortable asking questions that could become……..problematic.

All the hard questions, sometimes easy questions, normal natural questions can sometimes spin out of control. I never know what the breaking point is……….I am always afraid of my simple questions being over-reacted too. I never know when something I want to talk about will cause a defensive reaction…

But I ask anyway, as uncomfortable as I am……..i still always ask. That is what a D/s relationship is all about……….open, honest, communication.

I plan on meeting someone next month……..and its time for all the very hard questions…..but as uncomfortable as I am…….i still need to know the answers…….and will risk the responses….

So my question is this…….

Do you ask questions that may cause problems…….or stay silent??