Hello dear people, I came across your website and find it very inspiring, I was wondering if you had time to give a few words of advice to a young couple still figuring out their dom-sub relationship. We have been dating for five years and it's been a rocky road... until we started talking about our fantasies and it turned out that she needs to be retrained among other things, and that that is exactly what I want to do. Also she never wants to give oral sex because she thinks it's demeaning in someway... until I plain tell her to give oral sex and she will... all of a sudden, I can fuck her face and she loves it. She is very weary of being called a submissive or anything like that.. even though that's what she appears to be -or in the making at least-. What is up with that and how do I handle it?

When I bought leather wrist restraints and rope, she first was shocked but when I tried to appear unfazed while she stood there holding the stuff she kind of got into it, now how do I introduce these items into use? This I find very difiicult.


We are married, it's for life and we love eachother, but I know it's my role and job to figure out how to start and develop this path of ours and make us a successful bdsm couple. I know this is what we both want, I just haven't quite figured out how to do it yet. And it's easy to fuck things up when it's this new to her and me.

Thank you so much for any help, MasterChrisBliss.