Fitting a square peg into a round hole!!

[tina2008]

Ha!!!

Now that I have your attention, this isn't a "kink" question, per se. I'm confused by a few things.

I engage in chats, IM's, e-mails, etc. with a few Dominants I met when I first decided to act upon my submissive side. Most of these Dominants also remained friends during my one and only RL D/s relationship.

Okay, enough with the background info.

There is one particular Dominant with whom I share a lot of the same basic morals and beliefs. Our religious background is also similar although I'm no longer affiliated with any particular denomination.

I've talked at length with this particular Dominant for over a year. During the course of our conversations, it's easy to determine the type of submissive he would prefer. For many reasons, I feel that I'm not the right submissive for him. I've told him this on many occasions.

For example; his favorite "kink" is something I've never tried nor do I think I would like to (or can do) often. Additionally, he's very active in local BDSM activities and events. I've never been to a BDSM event and would probably attend such an event once or twice to observe. I'm not one for "events" of any nature as I've noticed usually there is a spirit of competitiveness when people are doing thus and so. He has also confirmed the pettiness, chest-thumping, etc. that occur at these events. Why would he want to have a submissive who won't attend functions with him? He would still appear to be a single Dom.

My question: Why would he still feel we are compatible when the things I mentioned above as well as numerous other things are not "aligned"? I don't think he's "desperate"; he's simply attempting to find a good blend of kink and vanilla. I've also posed the "fitting a square peg in a round hole" question to him, but his response bring any clarity to my questions.

Any feedback will be appreciated.