I've noticed looking at the personal ads here that when a female Sub posts an ad that the majority of the responses from Doms say, "PM me". Which got me thinking. How does the poster react to being asked to make first contact? It just seems counter intuitive that a Dom would ask a Sub to make the first contact.

And I realize that everyone is different and there is no one right answer, but I'm curious if there is a consensus. So if you've used the personals and someone has done this, how did it make you feel? If you've never posted but just want to share your thoughts I'd love to hear them as well.

Also for the Doms/Dommes that read this thread. I mean no disrespect, and would love to hear from you as to why you responded that way instead of just sending a PM?

Male Subs, from what I saw you don't get the same response if any. Did you just receive a PM?