BDSM Rigidity

[Kostly]

I get tired of the internet. There is allot of great information and avenues to explore, but when I hear certain things, I just get a dull ache in my head that wont go away!

Here is some of the things that I notice...

Inflexibility
A laundry list of personality traits desired that contradict themselves.
A belief in ONE true way.
Someone who is telling everyone how things SHOULD be!
Someone who is telling someone how to do things when they have no real experience.
Someone who has only had Online relationships telling others how real life relationships work.
Someone telling others how D/s relationships should be.

Its not that I don't like ideas on the subjects, I just hate the rigidity.

I had a friend of mine come to me and ask me why I demand that my partner wear what I say she should. What is interesting is that I never told her that I require such a thing, and that in fact, I would probably seek my submissive advice on such area's because I am not the most fashionable person. Thus I asked her where she got the idea that I would require such a thing. She told me that someone told her that to be a "true" Dom, you must control these things. I could only laugh

Lets face it, there are many types of Doms and subs in this world. I am a Daddy Dom, while others detest the idea. I am a romantic, and a sadist. I like to cuddle, and I like to humiliate. I am a box full of contradictions, and many of you are too.

Everyone reading this has their own unique style and life. They each kinda just fall into it. Real Life relationships work when you stop trying to play a role and just be yourself. You don't need to try and be a Dom, you just are a Dom. I am not as Dominant as some, and others are less Dominant then me, but we are all Dominants.

Then there are the people who just want to have Kinky Sex. Is this wrong? NO! When I am in a Real Life relationship, there are times I am not super Dom, and I prefer to just have kinky sex. Does this mean I am not a true lifestyler? Honestly I don't care.

Kostly

P.S. I wonder how many people will assume what a Daddy Dom is without actually reading it So please google it...