BDSM is an expression of love and desire for me. When I'm engaged, I tend to be very passionate--a lot of emotion and hungry kissing and caressing along with the whipping or spanking. Quite honestly, the experience of having someome tied and giving themselves to me is intensely erotic and arousing, and my excitement always shows. I make no effort to conceal it.

I've been told that some women don't like this kind of thing, that they prefer their Doms to be colder and more emotionally distant, and that they find this kind of emotional detachment arousing.

I'm interested to know what subs think of this. Do you want your Dom to be passionately involved with you during play, or do you like the emotional distance? How important to you is it to see his reactions to what he;s doing to you and what you make him feel?