I once said to someone here that I did not think he was sub or a switch, he just enjoyed kinky sex. I could feel the shock wave as he took it in. He has since come back and thanked me, since it has given him a new freedom to enjoy being himself. I have more gently suggested the same thing to a couple of other people.

Wondering what other people's thoughts were on this. Is there a difference? Does it help to know where on the vast spectrum of sexuality and sexual pleasures we sit?

cariad